Two years ago, an ex boyfriend (with whom I'd remained friends) told me he married a girl he had only known for 3 weeks. I thought it was crazy, but I was supportive.
Two weeks later, he called me and told me it was over -- and it was a terrible mistake because he barely knew her. He was about to ship out for Afghainstan (Army), and he said he was going to divorce her as soon as he got back. Crying, he begged me to write to him in Afghainstan. I wrote him a few times and he wrote me back -- just friendly letters.
Then one day I got an email from his WIFE chewing me out and implying that I was a ho for writing to her husband. I made it clear that he had told me they were not together. He told me she asked him not to speak (or wirte) to me EVER again. So, even after years of friendship, I immediatly cut off all contact.
Over a year later, he writes me an email saying they got a divorce and asks "So how have you been?" -- like it was no big deal. Would you even write him back?
2007-02-13 06:20:35 · 13 answers · asked by mistaken4sane 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think a couple of you are missing the fact that he DID know she wrote to me, because I told him in an email. Then, he wrote back to me telling me that she was forbidding him to speak or write to me anymore. I guess at that time he had changed his mind and wanted to see if they could work it out.
That's when I stopped talking to him -- out of respect for their marriage.
2007-02-13 06:37:44 · update #1
This dude is off his rocker. You seem like a respectable gal--writing your friend while he's on duty, ending that communication when it caused a problem (through no fault of your own).
So if you are this respectable gal--can't you see that he is falling back on you because you were kind enough to follow through with his requests in a time of need? He couldn't stick with a rash decision he made to marry that girl--which I'm sure everyone warned him against, not just you--and now he wants a shoulder to cry on. Who does he turn to? The only one who ever leant him a shoulder--you.
Ok, great, we're all humans, and we all make mistakes, but this guy is a trainwreck heading right for your door. I can clearly see that, and I hope that you do too.
Good luck!
2007-02-13 06:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since his wife chewed you out for writing her "husband" a letter, and your ex-boyfriend is acting like it's not a big deal, I would not write him back. He's saying one thing and he's doing the opposite and you cannot trust the words that he's writing in his letters. I would continue to make new friends and not worry about him if I were you. Move on with your life and stay focused and positive. I hope my advice helps. Good luck.
2007-02-13 06:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 08:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...you should write him back...just because his ex-wife was being a b i t c h... does not mean that you two should stop being friends...i mean friends are hard to come by...especially good friends...so if you have a friend... unless something really bad has happened...you should try to keep him/her...so write him back...tell him about what his EX said and who knows he may not have known about that s h i t and he just might be even more of a friend because you told him the truth...write him back...be the better person.
2007-02-13 06:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by kristine_star2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound as though either you or him did anything inappropriate. It was the ex wife that was insecure about it. I feel bad that he had to be embarrassed like that by her. He is probably looking to apologize for putting you in that position. After all he did wait until he was divorced to contact you again. Go ahead and reply.
2007-02-13 06:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kay N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say why not ? If he made the first effort to contact you. Then sure write him back. But don't act like nothing happened.Make sure he knows how you fell about what happened. Then just take it from there see what happens.Life is short take a risk.
Good Luck & God Bless.
2007-02-13 07:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by carebear0404882005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can put myself in this situation and i would write back. if he was a really great friend that you would have done anything for, if you thought about his friendship and missed it a lot i think u should.
and from what u wrote u said YOU cut all contact so he really didnt have a choice right?
2007-02-13 06:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by rramkay01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you do write him back (which I wouldn't) I would bring up what took place cause his ex-wife had no right to contact you and he should have been up front in the begining
2007-02-13 06:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by workit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write him back. His ex didn't want you to write to him probably because she was worried you were more than friends. Now that it's over, what's the problem?
2007-02-13 06:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by i<3hsm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, why not? its worth a try if she calls you again then o well she can't harm you in any way. It was good you backed off at first but now give it another chance theres no harm in that.
2007-02-13 06:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋