I am more looking for advice NOT asking a question..I am about to have our first baby anyday now and bot of us are VERY depressed about the situation...If anyone can please give some good advice I would really appreciate it
2007-02-13 06:09:05 · 5 answers · asked by andrea 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My second baby was born while her Dad was away. Get help. Ask anyone, and when someone offers, take her up on it. You need help with: dishes, cooking, vacuuming, shopping, breastfeeding, and taking baby for a drive when he is super-fussy. If you get other people to come to the house and help you, you'll get some of the rest you need, and your husband will be relieved to know that you're being taken care of. It will still be hard for him to be away, and your heart will break for him. Photos helped my husband cope. I used Snapfish.com and had them sent right to him. That way I didn't have to prepare the package for mailing. Also, if he has internet access, you could post videos on a site like photobucket or myspace. Good luck to you. This is a very hard thing to do, and we're not meant to do it alone. Get lots of help.
2007-02-13 06:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and just take it one day at a time. Remember that your baby knows whats going on. So keep your spirits up and i am just guessing but if your husband is in the military, it is always possible that he may just show up at the hospital. Another thing that you can do is video tape the birth and you guys can watch it together. No matter what you to are joined through this baby. Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-13 06:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a Costco or Sams club membership, go get a calling card with tons of minutes on it (at costco you can get 700 minutes for under $20, or even at walmart it will just be more per minute) to take to the hospital with you so you and hubby can talk lots after the baby is born.
Take a video camera to the hospital so you can film a bunch at the hospital and show hubby once he comes home.
Sorry that you have to do this without him, I hope that you have other family or friends who are planning to be with you in his place.
2007-02-13 06:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was gone when I was pregnant with both of our kids. I made sure to keep myself rested, happy and surrounded by friends. Take help when offered, rest whenever possible and try to keep your spirits up. Communicate with your husband often by phone, email or through letters. It is not his choice to be gone, so try to include him as much as possible without making him feel guilty. At the birth, take lots of pictures, video, whatever you think he would like and just try to relax. Good luck!
2007-02-13 06:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband is overseas and he wasnt able to come home for the birth either. he did call me about 10 times that and i think thats what helps... my baby is 7 months old and they still havent met... this is our first child contact red cross
2007-02-13 06:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by armywifes3lb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋