Saturday my husband was planning on taking my car to work. I saw that it was low on gas and filled the tank for him. Today he took my car to work again and left me with his car so low on gas that the needle didn't even move off of the bar it rests on. Luckily I got our son to school and managed to make it to the gas station and get gas.
He had mentioned it was low on gas last night but this is ridiculous. I called him to ask him not to do that to me again because it's just so wrong to me on so many levels he said I didn't have a right to be upset since I didn't actually run out of gas. He later replied via email...
"Wow, you are dramatic aren’t you. You really need to stop reading into things so deeply. I just did not feel like stopping at the gas station at the time... I really did not think it was going to be a big deal."
How many of you would have done this instead of taking a few minutes to put gas in the car for your wife?
2007-02-13 06:04:40 · 26 answers · asked by Amada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for your replies and helping put things in perspective.
2007-02-13 08:26:25 · update #1
I do think you're overreacting a bit. It may have been rude to leave the car on E, but there really are more important things in life to get upset about...
2007-02-13 06:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh, calm down. There are so many bigger things to worry about than that. So maybe he wasn't as thoughtful at that moment, but tell me, are there times when you were maybe too tired or busy to be thoughtful to him. Do you over react to every thing you consider inconsiderate? When is the last time you thanked him or praised him for being thoughtful?
Now, if he called you names or played mind games, or hit you, or you found a condom in his car, well then go ahead and get very upset! He's right, don't read into things. Guys are so straight forward and pretty basic. Don't go looking for something to be wrong when there isn't anything. Look at what you have that is good and enjoy it? Make your husband enjoy coming home to you. He won't be perfect, but he did remind you the night before it was low and it wasn't a surprise. Believe me, some women out there really have problems with their hubby's, don't go looking for it when it's really not that big of a deal.
2007-02-13 06:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by Get it Together 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy, but I think you are over reacting. He told you the night before he was low on gas, was he really supposed to specify exactly how many gallons he had left?
Just get over it. You didnt run out of gas, you obviously had enough money to buy gas, everything was fine.
If you let that ruin your day, maybe you have bigger problems with your husband.
Chill out and be thankful you had a car to get your kid to school, be thankful he DID tell you it was low on gas, be happy you have a husband who loves you. There are so many other things in life people could fight about, so be happy with what you have and forget about the whole gas thing!
Its ok, im sure he didnt mean it. Guys are very simple and he probably wasnt thinking about filling up on gas the other day.
2007-02-13 06:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by lhstar07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could be overreacting a bit too. I do understand your anger though but at least he mentioned it to you. I do also think it was selfish for him to do that. I would talk to him and ask if he could please keep at least a quarter of a tank of gas in the car at all times so that you can get yourself to a gas station if need be or in case there is an emergency...it is also good for a car not to be less than that if a mechanical angle works. Sometimes guys just think we flip out for no reason so I bet if you explain why you got so upset he may not leave you so low on gas.
2007-02-13 06:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would have been thoughtful of him to put gas in the car for you... But don't make a big deal out of it. Perhaps he was too tired, and figured there was enough gas in the car to get you to school and back (in my car, there's still 2 gal left whenever the "empty" light comes on, so I know I can drive for two more days before I fill it up again). Drop it.
2007-02-13 06:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would have just saiud "I'm sorry. Next time i'll just make sure there is gs in your car." But sometimes guys just forget.
He did mention that it was low on gas..sooo it shouldn't have been a shock to you. If he gets upset at you again, DONT NAG!! Just tell him that he put you AND your son in danger. You could have ran out of gas and it been miles to another station. So, talk him into making a rule about gas. If you use the car, make sure that is at least 1/4 of a tank left in it at all times.
And if he disagrees just remind him how he is putting his fam ilys lives at risk..
simple! and after all that, never bring it up again..
2007-02-13 06:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would think that with him being a "man" he wouldnt do that no matter if he is taking it or you simply due to the fact, it is not good for the car. Duu, I'm a female, (well a female mechanic) but none the less, just duu. So I dont think you are over reacting... I'd take the "dont do this to me" out of it and put the "Do you wanna buy a new fuel filter and replace the injectors" in it. Go price everything that has to do with the fuel system, give him the estimate and see if he continues this irresponsible behavior. Good luck.
2007-02-13 06:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by chaa107 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...
So you put gas in the vehicle so you could go to work.
He used the car on his day off and told you it was low afterwards.
Then when you went to use the car for household chores you found the car was not low, but completely empty impeding you from completing your chores for the day and possibly causing you to endanger yourself and your son by nearly running out of gas.
Because he couldn't fill it up after he emptied it.
Then he dismisses you when you're upset about it.
W.T.F?
Honey, I think you have more problems than your gas tank. Talk to a counciller.
2007-02-13 06:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Chelle K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's insensitive. To just blow it off, and respond with you didn't run out of gas is some what rude on his part. If you had run out of gas with your son in the car was he going to come bring you gas? I think you did the right thing but letting him know that it's his car and his responsibility to put gas in his own car. You put gas in yours and therefore he knew he wasn't going to run out. Remind that because you're married things are shared jointly and if he didn't have the money go gas up his car you would've given it to him. Then tell him he's the one being dramatic.
2007-02-13 06:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband always puts gas in my car. My husband knows I hate to pump gas so I will let my tank go down and he says he wants me and the kids to be safe. Don't get me wrong I will put gas in my car if I have too and I never take his kindness for granted.
2007-02-13 09:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by tomimegi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O, gosh I've soo been there. I am constantly running out of gas and my guy never seems to put gas into it. He just Tells me that it "should" last me to get to work. Very annoying. Sweetheart, you have every right to be annoyed, but just let it go. Next time he asks to use your car, just tell him no. And if he gets upset, tell him that its not fair for you to go without, just because he is irresponsible. If he gets mad, say too bad, now you know how frustrated I get. Then drop it. We'll see how long it takes him to do you right. LOL
Good Luck!
2007-02-13 06:13:37 · answer #11 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋