2007-02-13 05:57:18 · 15 answers · asked by Sara Jean 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Congratulations on opening up your true self to your family! I think the best next step would be give them a day or so to breathe, and then, even if they are accepting of you anyway (as I hope they are) give them time to grieve - they will feel a sense of loss for things they envisioned for you that now won't happen, or may happen differently than their vision, and it's OK for them to have those feelings and it's natural and it's going to pass. My sister came out to my family - and although my parents were happy to know her truth, and completely accepted her - they definitely had to let go of a big traditional wedding in their favorite Catholic church, haha - but they were able to greive the loss of their "plans" for her.
Good luck to you and your future!
2007-02-13 06:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats it's a tough step. remember that coming out is not just done once or twice. it is a life long practice. You do it many times over the course of your life. I even had my hairstylist think I had a girlfriend. I was like oh my god. people assume your straight until the very last moment when you finally, after years of torture (so to speak) Come out.
I think you should get a rainbow flag so you can symbolize what being gay means to you. If you want to meet a guy then go on gay.com or attend a gay youth group in your area.
I would consider PFLAG for your parents.
Congrats the worst of it all is all over.
way to go
2007-02-13 12:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told your parents in the way of war-starter, then your parents will be mad, and you will be "dead" soon. Pack your stuff in advance.
If you told your parents in the way of asking them to understand your situation, then your parents will be sad, but you will be fine.
You don't need to do anything next. Just live healthy, find a good man your life if your over 18. And DO NOT mess up with sex with a bunch of gays. Your parents will finally accept and love you even you are gay.
2007-02-13 06:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by Henry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Throw yourself a coming out party. Mail out invitations to family and friends. Have a cake, play party games like Pin The "Member" on the Butt, Strip Twister, stuff like that. Make sure everyone brings you a gift, and have some fun!
2007-02-13 06:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How are your moms and dads? Are they know-how and empathetic folks? Or are they totally devout and strict? If they fall into the latter class you do not have got to inform them something but. Wait a couple of extra years. If they do not determine it out on their possess you'll inform them then. You're nonetheless so very younger, and you are going to entirely freak them out when you inform them now.
2016-09-05 08:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them be and let them take it in. And if they don't support you then they are horrible parents! Good for you coming out! I would accept my kid no matter what gay or straight.
2007-02-13 06:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by sassygirliegirl27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just pat yourself on the back because the worst is over. Now all you have to do is wait until it sinks in with them and they start adapting to it.
Or maybe you should find a boyfriend. ^_^ Or girlfriend if you're a girl.
2007-02-13 06:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by leavemebe_11 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, I think that most people that come out to their family are wanting to be accepted as who they are. Now that you did that, let them be a part of your life! Let them know who you are dating and the interests that you share. ( I'm not talking about sex. ) I believe that being respectful, open and honest with them is essential.
2007-02-13 06:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Rob x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep checking in with them, because this kind of information produces a number of questions. Contact PFLAG too, they are terrific.
2007-02-13 06:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
nothing. just wait for them to calm down and see what happens. if they really freak out it means they're narrow-minded. if they reject you, just go your own way and don't mind them.
2007-02-13 06:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by gabriella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋