we are both married we both feel like there is more to life than the 2 of us are living....we both love our spouces's very much...
2007-02-13 05:53:14 · 8 answers · asked by surveyman5285 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i found myself in a similar situation. i am married, she isn't. i could picture my life being much better with her than the one my life now is and will be. but its very hard to tell the future, and that old saying of grass is greener comes into play. myself, i am still married trying to make our relationship to become a small part of what it once was, and hoping that it could become more. but my words of advice, even if you stop today, you will always be thinking of this other person, it will consume you, it will make you ugly, it will affect your every decision. divorce is probably imminent, even if that isn't what you want. i have a feeling mine is coming soon.
2007-02-13 06:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow U really got ur self in deep there. A one time thing is hard enough to work out but something where u connect with someone else is harder to forget... and forgive. If u don't want ur marriage to end get out of ur other relationship. Because if it comes out later and u 2 are faced with the Question of how long this has been going on, that's going to be bad. I understand ur feeling's feel strong but so will ur spouces's when they find out!!!!! good luck I hope I helped.
2007-02-13 14:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by raynemarie03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me for what I am about to say but why are you cheating in the first place? The reasons I'm sure can be many and perhaps justifiable. But think about this for a moment. Would you teach this value or lack of value to your daughter or son? If the answer is yes... There is really no answer that's going to satisfy you.
Your chemical addiction to dopamine is what your cheating for. Dopamine is what gives you that warm fuzzy feeling, that ecstatic lust and that overwhelming passion and hidden stealing away desires.
Try that with your hubby perhaps.
2007-02-13 13:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved your spouse very much, you wouldn't be looking for someone else, you would be content in the relationship with them.
As for advice, if you truly love your spouse, as you say you do, remove yourself from the temptation of the other person. Cut off contact and start romancing your spouse.
2007-02-13 13:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by mark my words 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you DO NOT love your spouses very much or you wouldn't be on here asking this question. Walk away from the situation. FAST. A lot of people are going to get hurt over your selfish lust.
2007-02-13 13:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u both loved your spouses VERY much..you wouldnt be falling into a possible relationship and your both foolling yourself to think otherwise. STOP talking and seeing each other or you both need to get divorces so you can continue your possible deeper relationship....damnit
2007-02-13 13:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both married to other people, then you need to end it with your spouses if you feel you want to be together. It isn't fair to your spouses and it isn't fair to this new person either. You either need to be with your spouse or be with the other person...choose!
2007-02-13 14:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always temptation... always and forever, and if you are looking you will find it, and you are about to blow your marriage because betrayal is really the only deal-breaker. If this person is in your workspace, change it, move, unless you are willing to loose your marriage will end, so , end association, and realize how common this problem really is.....
2007-02-13 13:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋