I am not sure what key points to express to get the best advise. I don't know what is going on in my relationship. and there is a TON of things that built up to this... I feel like I am screwed in the head and shouldn't feel the way i do... whenever i say "this is how i feel" or "What you did makes me feel" I get told "I was like that cause of you or what you did" so i try to change and then he says everything i do is fine... and to stop playing this game. Then this morning - i asked why did you come to bed so late - he said he was working on his passport application - i said it shouldn't have taken two hours (it was almost complete - he just had to add a couple details and print it) and then cause i said it should not have taken that long all of a sudden he freaked out and said that I have issues and basically got all deffensive like i was accusing him of lying... and i wasn't... i just made the comment. i feel like i am loosing it. 1000 words isn't enough to exlpain properly.
2007-02-13 05:38:52 · 3 answers · asked by mitsey0502 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he is using attack as the first form of defense... and if he feels he needs to attack you at a small coment like that then he needs help or he is up to something and worried you are on to him...you are not going mental, he is playing head games with you and making you feel it is all your fault.. if you are feeling something then there is a reason you felt that way,do not ignore your own feelings if something dosnt feel right then it prolly isnt for you... have it out with him once and for all, and if he attacks you in defence again then walk away from it until he is prepared to be honest and grown up and talk about your relationship
2007-02-13 05:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by merrpet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking too much. You are reading too much into every action and over-analyzing every point. The two of you are caught up in a perpetual passive-aggressive cycle. It's unhealthy. You need to break up, get your heads straight, and learn how to react naturally instead of getting cuaght up in psychobabble.
2007-02-13 05:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have a six sense (gut feeling) if you have a feeling that he is up to no-good, your probably right. If not then you should stop questioning him. Guys HATE that.
2007-02-13 05:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by atcfdrt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋