I tried to be a nice and friendly to everyone but no one ever seems to notice me. I never fit in any cliques and I'm tired of jumping from one group of friends to another. I want a group where I feel I really belonged. Although most of my friends like me for instance I get invitation to parties and movies but when it comes down to personal stuffs like when someone ask them who is their best friend and taking pictures... I am never included. I can sense that I'm just a friend and I don't have a clique at all....It feels as if I am a loner.....
2007-02-13 05:08:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Worst, I don't even have a single true best friend. Sometimes people asked who are the people I hang out with but I can't tell because I hang out with so many groups of people. I feel so unhappy because I never find a group to feel I belong and identified with.
I donno what to do. I just need advice, help and encouragement.
2007-02-13 05:10:20 · update #1
Be yourself, and like it. You don't have to "fit in". It's nice to confide about wants, hopes - but many people simply complain and attack (others), and that's not something to aspire to, or want. Be fair. Be honest. And watch for ******* (every 2nd person is one!). Study. Read. Learn. Better yourself. Talk to adults, more than your peers maybe? Learn, and you'll understand that you've gained much more than whether or not Melissa's new shoes match her top, or that Michael likes so-and-so and not so-and-so. Just say 'hello' to other people you think would be in the same situation as you, and presto... you'll have great friends.
2007-02-13 05:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This probably won't help you, but you don't need a group or a clique to define who you are. You are you and you are unique. I was never part of any clique and I never had any interest to do so. I liked being me. I had only a couple of friends and that was all I needed. I'm still that way. I didn't even join a sorority when in college. Remind youself that you are unique and special. Focus on one person in the group you like more and try to get closer to them for a friend. Better yet, single out an underdog in school and be friends with them. They may feel the same way you do and you two will hit it off.
2007-02-13 05:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by Groovy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about having a "best friend". The most important thing is to have friends that will stick with you and to hang out with. First, you might try to let others in--show them you. Do things you like and that you are good out--then people just like you will gravitate towards you. Best friends work both ways---so open up and be there for your friends now. Sometimes being a loner means you withdraw from people. Open up, be open and smile---that attracts people. Good luck to ya!
2007-02-13 05:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by pmbrundle74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My philosophy is this: To Have a friend, you must first Be a friend. Take some time and think about who you would like to be your best friend. Then begin to think of ways in which you can become their best friend. Start showing an interest in what they are doing. Become a good listener. Don't be so anxious about talking about yourself and your needs, but rather focus on what interests them. Develop the skill of putting others first, and when they realize that you genuinely care about them, they will genuinely care about you, and friendships will evolve into more than just "one-of-the-guy type relationships. Becoming best friends takes time to develop, so be patient and hang in there. I believe your heart is in the right place. Hope this helps.
2007-02-13 05:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by jewel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who aren't in cliques are usually more rounded individuals. They are likely to be comfortable in any group. People in cliques are lost when surrounded by people other then those with their interests. There is nothing wrong with getting along with everyone. Maybe if more people were like you the world would be a better place.
2007-02-13 05:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by ideaspclst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE YOURSELF-A BIT OF A CLICHE BUT TRUE.
BE YOUR OWN GROUP LET OTHERS JOIN YOU. BE A FRIEND TO OTHERS AND YOU WILL HAVE FRIENDS . ALL THESE SOUND SO SIMPLE YET SO DIFFICULT.
ALL PEOPLE FEEL ALONE AT TIMES WHICH IS WHY SO MANY PEOPLE TRY SO HARD TO FIT IN. FIT IN YOUR OWN SKIN,
IF YOU DO NOT LIKE THE WORLD MAKE CHANGES IN YOURSELF OR YOUR BACKYARD SO TO SPEAK. THE WORLD WILL BE IMPROVED IN A MANOR THAT YOU FIND LIKABLE AND YOU WILL THE FIRST TO KNOW OF THIS IMPROVEMENT.
THE THING MOST PEOPLE SEEM TO HAVE IN COMMON IS THE FEELING THAT THEY HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON WITH ANYONE ELSE.
2007-02-13 05:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by C. M. R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in any clubs? I know how you feel though. My only true best friend hasn't gone to the same school as me for 6 years, and we don't talk as much as I would like. At least when I'm in a club I feel like I belong there.
2007-02-13 05:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by crzygrl0902 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, new members of cliques can be sort of ignored. If you say your friends like you, you might just need to hang around them a little bit longer. Try to be your self! I really hopes this helps! :-)
Hang in there!
2007-02-13 05:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Understand your Pain, Just try being yourself their is a friend for everyone. I bet that you are overlooking someone who thinks and considers you to be your bestfriend. Also be careful whose click you want to be a part of it might be all what you think it is. Give this time! You say that you are nice and, if so, Good things do happen to those who wait!!
Take Care
2007-02-13 05:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Breann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you don't have one best friend but it sounds like you have many good friends. You should be happy with that. A loner is someone who doesn't have anyone to hang out with. I wouldn't let it bother you. Just be who you are and that is all anyone can ask for.
2007-02-13 06:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋