2007-02-13 04:58:42 · 46 answers · asked by ladyblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's cheating on you. He can't explain this one away.
Edit:
Okay I've thought of something he might say. Darling I was going to ask you if I could use the back door tonight and I thought this would be more hygenic.
2007-02-13 05:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LadyBlue I don't know if you and your husband use condoms together or not, but if you don't then he's cheating. There is no reason in the world the man can give you that will justify why he has it if you guys don't use them.
My advice would be to confront him about it. Tell him the reason why you were in his wallet. Don't let him play reverse psychology and screw you up so emotionally you think everything is your fault. Yes you were wrong for going into his wallet without his permission unless he said otherwise, but there's a bigger issue. If he's outside of the home messing around then it has now officially became part of your business as well because he could bring you an STD. Try to remain calm during the conversation and if he blows up and start ranting on about what you did and didn't do past and present then he definitely has something to hide and he's just pissed about the fact you found out and now he's going to have to tell you everything. Stay strong because your going to need to be. Don't let him see your weak point when he do break down and tell you. Just sit there and soak it all in and when he's done just say okay and walk away so you'll have time to process everything and take it from there.
2007-02-13 05:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the condom in his wallet & carry on as normal. If the condom dissappears then you no for sure he's having sex with somebody else. Or tamper with the condom. Carefuly open it up, take out the condom & replace it with a razer blade. Glue the wrapper back 2gether & put it back in his wallet,don't mention it at all. I'm sure one way another the truth will come out soon enough !
2007-02-13 14:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by ROGER E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and he don't use condoms then obviously he has one in his wallet so if he gets the chance with someone else he has got one there to use!
If i were you i wouldnt ask him about it because he will just LIE! He will say something like 'I saw it on the floor at work and didnt want anyone to be embarrassed so picked it up and popped it in my wallet and forgot about it'
If you DONT challenge him about it, you can monitor if it goes, and you can check up on him in other ways without him being suspicious.
If he is cheating then i am really sorry for you. When you know for sure, dont put up with any sh*t from him.
2007-02-13 20:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say a word....... wait until it's gone.... then ask him what he did with it. From now, make sure you keep a log of when he's out, what time he went and what time he came back, also where he said he was going. Check his wallet every day.
I have to say though, a man with a condom in his wallet sounds pretty suspicious. He maybe seeing prostitutes though, some men do because they wouldn't ask their partners to do certain things.
2007-02-17 01:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt very much this man would tell you the truth even if you confronted him. Why don't you have one in your handbag that he could accidently find, perhaps when the shoe is on the other foot things might become interesting. There is no point in accusations they will get you nowhere. If the trust has gone out of the relationship it is difficult to restore it again. Good luck.
2007-02-17 02:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Paul D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you found the need to be sneaking around in your husbands wallet the TRUST is OBVIOUSLY GONE. So what does it matter that you accuse him of anything. Now if you are WRONG then you have a SERIOUS PROBLEM.
2007-02-13 05:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess my first concern would be, why were you looking in his wallet?
A man's wallet, like a woman's purse is considered private matters. Not that either have anything to hide. Simply a matter of one's privacy. I dont rummage thru my mate's wallet. And he does not rummage thru my purse.
But since you've discovered something unsettling, than I guess the only answer is to question it. Asking, is not accusing.....
2007-02-13 05:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to accuse him of anything...just ask "Why do you have a condom in your wallet?" He might ask you why you were going thru his wallet which is a pretty good question. Do you usually go thru his things? Are you suspicous of something? A woman's intuition is usually right, even when you don't want it to be.
2007-02-13 05:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by SweetnSour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Honey, just gotta know how a condom ended up in your wallet. Can't blame me for feeling funny about finding this!" and there ya go. You've got every right to ask. What do you think he would do if he found a condom in your purse?
2007-02-13 05:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well what about if he found a condom in your wallet he would want to confront you right away you do the same confront him and he will only get defensive if he is cheating but it is obvious the condom belonged to him.
2007-02-13 05:34:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋