2007-02-13 04:51:39 · 17 answers · asked by panthrchic 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Ah "Bruno"?? I work p/t, I go to school, I take out the trash! I cook and clean and do laundry! I pay 1/2 the bills and take care of our kids! I shuttle the kids b & f to baseball, dance, gymnastics....Who takes care of who?? Don't even pretend like you know my life and what my husband contributes!
2007-02-13 05:07:10 · update #1
Last night my husband asked me if I would be upset if he gave me an appliance for Valentines Day......(He knows we need a new microwave.)....I told him (half-joking) "It depends on what is in that appliance...." I usually do not get anything, and I have come to expect that so for me an appliance or anything else for that matter is a step up.
2007-02-13 05:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by deerogre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a million. For my fiance, how lots time would i'd desire to offer him in the previous i comprehend if he can exchange? is this something which you may even exchange approximately themselves? NO, human beings do no longer exchange--HE appears like an entire LUMP. 2. could I cancel/positioned off our wedding ceremony? CANCEL 3. Our mutual chum - what do I do approximately that? SEE IF IT GROWS. i'd p.c. to a minimum of stay acquaintances, yet i don't comprehend how real looking that's, pondering our emotions for one yet another. How would i comprehend if he's a greater valuable journey for me? FROM WHAT I study ABOVE THE FINANCE is not any journey in any respect--IF THIS ONE isn't the single, SO WHAT? you would be greater valuable off on my own THAN WITH THE FINANCE. FROM WHAT YOU WROTE, YOUR existence would be AN EMPTY hollow HELL in case you WENT forward WITH the marriage. the only difficulty YOU 2 HAVE IN uncomplicated IS a infant, the rest IS TRAGIC. appears like the MUTUAL chum IS YOUR SOUL MATE, of direction there is not any TELLING WHAT SKELETONS HE HAS interior the CLOSET AND WHAT you haven't any longer found out. yet FROM WHAT YOU WROTE, HE ACCEPTS YOU AS you're, COMPLIMENTS YOUR mind, STIMULATES YOUR pastime for existence AND RESPECTS YOU. ultimately, of course you're AN clever AND EXPRESSIVE youthful lady, i think of you would be depressing WITH THE FINANCE, and you'd be apologetic approximately GOING forward WITH the marriage......peace and each and all of the final. Any suggestion would be a great deal favorite. Please, no impolite comments. i comprehend I shouldn't are becoming to be into this occasion, whether it wasn't intentional and that i'm attempting to do the final i will to deal with it the ultimate way. thank you.
2016-10-02 02:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know and I don't care. Valentine's Day is a creature of corporate America - designed to make us feel guilty if we don't go out and SPEND - and spend on some useless thing like a restaurant meal, candy, a 2 cent card that costs $1.25 (with pre-printed "personal" message extoling how I love thee), or - worst of all - a diamond.
If he hasn't already told you in ten thousand little ways during the past year that he loves you - then you have reason to have hurt feelings if you don't get a commercial Valentine present. If he hasn't already told you in all the big ways (no betrayals - either sexual or financial, tolerates all the irritating things you do, works reasonably hard for the common needs of the couple) that he loves you - then you have reason to have hurt feelings if you don't get a commercial Valentine present.
But if he has alrady told you all year long that he loves you, then BE HAPPY and thank God that you have him. It is inevitable that he will die - maybe 50 years from now, mayby tomorow, but its going to happen, and then all you will have is memories. So, make sure your memories focus on the important thing of life, not on some trivial failure to live up to the expectations that self-serving men you don't even know have spent years and millions of dollars inserting into your brain in the hopes of serving their own financial interests. Or, did you think that corporate Americal spends millions of dollars advertising Valentine's Day because their CEOs have such tender and mushey hearts - gladdened whenever a man tells his GF or wife that he loves her?
2007-02-13 05:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by xpalidoshu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 26 years and we usually get cards and little things or go out for dinner. I sometimes make a special dinner. Now that the kids are gone, I don't make such a big deal of it, but we tell each other ,'lets not buy stuff for valentines day this year'
I think its a waste of money to tell you the truth. Red roses mean less and less to me. I would much rather he pick a flower out of the yard and give it to me, I think THAT is sweet. But my husband has never done that for me even though I told him I'd rather have that!
Tomorrow morning we'll say, "Happy Valentines Day Baby" and that will satisfy each of us. Why don't you make your own card as a decoration and pick some flowers or get some at the market. Sometimes you have to get them yourself, because some men just don't want to do this. Do you do stuff for your hubby on valentines day? It ought to go both ways you know. Sometimes you have to teach your husband how you want to be
treated. If he never gets it, you'll have to not make it a big deal or it can give you an ulcer.
2007-02-13 05:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by La Cicada 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Me and my S/O have been together for 8 years now and I know I won't be getting anything, not even a card.
He thinks it is that we don't make a big deal out of these kinds of holidays, but really it is more about the fact that he doesn't put forth any effort at all.
I throw a birthday party for each of our family and friends at our house everytime anyone's birthday comes around. Last month was my birthday and I had to buy my OWN cake. Just another example of how he doesn't even try.
But he has other qualities that are great, which is why I am still with him, but it still stinks....
2007-02-13 05:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Hotsauce 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he go to work today? does he pay the bills on time?
Did you use the money he gave or earned to buy the grocerys and pay the rent? Does he mow the lawn and take out the trash after working all day? Wash the car? Maybe watch the kids while you go shopping with the girls.
Is he on drugs? Is he an alcoholic? Run around with other women? Beat you? Does he love you, wether he says so or not? Maybe we don't remember valentines, but do remember to take care of you? does that count for something?
2007-02-13 04:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Steven 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well, you and the First Lady have something in common. According to her, The White House florist remembers to send her flowers, but not the prez. The day is so over commercialized. Roses that go for $19.99 on the corner market are all of a sudden $59.99. If he's a good man in every other way, cut him some slack.
2007-02-13 05:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just as you did when you were dating you go to tell him what to do.
But No I'm not getting anything horribly romantic or anything. we bought each-other a combined gift of a DVD set. It is not expensive or anything and it has been sitting on the entertainment center for 3 weeks already.
You are not alone. Sad isn't it.
2007-02-13 05:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by geekgirl33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 8 years, we're way to comfortable with each other. It would be nice but I don't expect it, frankly I rather not spend the money on something I will throw away cause I'm not sentimental.
2007-02-13 05:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by Claudia M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband & I discussed this Monday night. I said why don't we just say "Happy Valentine's Day" to each other and leave it at that. He said we have to do something special.
I'm working on something creative...just haven't figured out what that is yet. I have 24 hours so...
2007-02-13 05:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋