Well my fiance's brother committed suicide yesterday morning.. he was only 23 years old.. he laid on his bed and shot himself with a .38 caliber pistol.. why would a person do this.. He had so much to live for.. I feel so bad i wish i would have pushed to talk to him more but he always stayed in his room.. Why didnt i do something to make his life better.. Could i have even done anything now that i do not know but i had a dream that after he shot himself and his spirit left his body he was sayin what did i just do.. what did i do why did i just do this and he was crying.. and i cant believe that he would do this when he was the one providing for his family ie his mom and uncle.. maybe it was too much of a burden for him i do not know only he really knows but he wrote a blog before he killed himself and it was really sad and he looked up to my fiance so much.. he said chris protected him and he wish he could have been more like him
2007-02-13 04:51:13 · 4 answers · asked by Dclp8204 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I can't say how he really felt, but it seems he was really desperate for a way out. My heart goes out to your fiance' and his family!
2007-02-13 05:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He committed suicide, that is no one elves problem but his own, and it sounded like he didn't really want all help from you guys. You were there and you would have listened to him if he wanted to talk to you. He wasn't satisfied with his life that is probably why he committed suicide. You could tell him everything he has to live for. Only he needed to see it, and maybe he couldn't see it, because he envied his brother so much. Just be happy that he is in a better place now, and it's not like he is not there anymore. Like all dead people, his spirit is probably around you guys.
2007-02-13 05:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by amazon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard suicidal thougts described as like a set of scales. Emotions to be balanced out. And when the scale gets too heavy on one side the scale tips. Some people are able to stand more weight than others. Suicides are not bad people and should not be judged. Their burdens just got too heavy and they didn't know how to handle it. You could not have prevented it. Don't feel guilty, it was not your fault. He needed help but, he didn't seek it. Just pray for him, that he is at peace now.
2007-02-13 05:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart and your fiance's too. That is a terrible burden. You are mixing grief with guilt. Don't do that. No one wants to feel like they let a suicide slip through their fingers, as I have myself, twice. But when someone wants to kill themselves they just do it and nothing can stop them, you can only delay their action.
You were helpless to read him or to read his mind. Some teens show all those signs and live through them. It's an individual thing. And I Have to believe in a God that feels our sorrow and saves our broken souls. That boy didn't do it to hurt anyone but himself. Now he can rest in peace. You didn't hear him in your dream. Your spirit was reaching out for his and you were sincerely affected by this.
Let TIME (Yes) heal you both and I will pray for you right now. I can simply sign out and will. When one person prays and tells you about it, imagine how many others will read it and pray for you too. Peace and Healing.
2007-02-13 05:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋