Why is it ok for a woman to say at breakfast, "I think I'll keep my baby", then at dinner, say, "Well, I can't afford it so I will have the doctor kill it"? What's wrong with this picture?
2007-02-13 04:47:32 · 15 answers · asked by americanmalearlington 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
treycapne... If you intentionally take something or do something to miscarry, then you are still guilty of murder. Sorry to burst yoiur bubble.
2007-02-13 10:21:13 · update #1
it not okay at all..... its murder!!!!
2007-02-13 04:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by laydenirvine 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
A pregnant woman can eat fruit loops every day for two weeks because everything else makes her wanna puke, and then eat everything that doesn't eat her first. She can also decide in the morning she is too fat/ugly/swollen/miserable, and five minutes later be convinced she is God's personal gift to all mankind. What I'm saying is pregnancy is all ups and downs (and sideways and backwards) most of the time. Tomorrow she may think marriage will solve all her problems, or decide she's strong enough to "go it alone"; so don't get all upset. A pregnant woman can be all questions and no answers sometimes. If your really concerned she may opt for abortion against your will, you better have a good long sit down with her. express your concerns, and tell her your opinion of abortion. Help her see your side of things, and offer to help her work out her issues. Above all, you must have this conversation with empathy (after all, your in this boat together) and kindness and understanding. Screaming, yelling and fighting will get you NO WHERE fast, and possibly push her farther away from you, or push her into an abortion she wasn't sure of to begin with. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-13 13:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by janember819 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she is really unsure of what SHE wants. If she truly feels she is unable to 'afford' to care for a child, she can look into adoption as an option. However, there are also state aid program for health insurance, food, housing, and other things to assist families that cannot afford day to day living on their own. These programs are worth looking into. It sounds like this decision was made kind of quickly and without much thought. I would tell her to give the idea of having a child more time and see how she feels in a day or two. Good luck.
2007-02-13 12:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has to stop thinking of herself, just because she can't afford it does not mean that she should murder it. It's not the baby's fault she can't afford it. If she doesn't want it then give it up for adoption give it to someone who can afford it. It's that simple! Murder should not be an option
2007-02-13 12:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by lem 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have terminated two pregancies and continued one.
I have a beautiful daughter that I have raised with my loving husband. During her pregnancy, I didn't experience too many symptoms, except my feet are now bigger, and my hips are much wider than they used to be. My daughter used to kick me in the ribs to straighten out her foot, which was twisted at first. It straigtened out in the next few days. However, she could have easily broken my ribs, with the softening of the cartilage that goes on during pregancy to prepare for birth, like many other women have reported. My last partner's mother lost all her teeth as the calcuim was sucked out of her bones during her pregancy.
A pregancy, even one, and even if terminated, alters the woman's body forever. If continued, her life and person are never the same. She risks every sort of change and ingury imaginable, as well as indignities, pain, and suffering. And let's not forget the very real possiblity of death. Those who choose to continue a pregnancy, even if they do the very selfless act of giving up the baby after thier body is changed for life, still must choose such an amazing life altering experience willingly.
I love my daughter and accepted her as a gift and her birth as the most spiritual experience of my life. I would not been able to do so had I been forced to continue all my pregnancies. Hell, I may not even have survived...
Those of you who are not making the choice currently, or will not ever, have no say. Period. Just as I don't get to volunteer you for risky drug experiments or medical procedures against your will. If I get to implant a parasite in your body that will suck out all your minerals and life juices to the point of death without your say-so, then you get to tell me to have my baby.
A miscarrage isn't murder, and women have been inducing safely with herbs and other procedures for thousands of years. Is having the very choice over your body "murder", too? Or just the medical procedure?
I truly hope you never have children.
2007-02-13 13:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by treycapnerhurst 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Thats terrible if someone cant afford to give their child the lifestyle they feel like they need then give it up for adoption there are thousands of couples who cant have children, and would love to have one. she could also be saying this because she is scared about whats going on and whats going to happen to her life, and may feel its easier to get rid of the baby then face what is going on now. let her know that its ok to be scared, and people will stand behind her and support her.
2007-02-13 12:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by TheSavant 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with this picture is that some women are irresponsible and if this women is your girl friend or your wife, I would suggest finding someone else.
Just remember as the father you have rights to. If you do not want the pregnancy terminated you will need to get an attorney and challenge the abortion.
2007-02-13 13:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by mikeae 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Everything, I think it is totally wrong and I hate to know that women think of themselves before the precious baby they are carrying. It wrong and I am sorry if you are going through this.
2007-02-13 13:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by kristin h 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is murder- I do not agree with it at all, but it is not just the Mom's decision. The child belongs to the Dad as well. I just don't understand why people will choose pleasure (sex) and think that is OK, but once their "fun" turns serious (baby) they want a simple solutions to end it. THEN they continue to have their "fun" with no lesson learned. If you are the Dad, you have rights - please follow up with them.
2007-02-13 13:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by louwho 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Im not going to spout my personal beliefs into this..or experience.
But if you can't afford the baby...and your health is good..you have insurance...Give it up for adoption.
2007-02-13 13:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's completely a woman's right to choose what she wants for herself and the embryo that is inside her body. It's not a baby until it's born, sorry.
If she, after thinking about it, decides that she cannot handle the responsibilites of a child and doesn't want to go through the traumatic experience of pregnancy and labor, then abortion is her best option.
I'm sorry, but if you are a male, you have no right to voice your opinion about this, because it has nothing to do with you.
2007-02-13 13:02:17 · answer #11 · answered by bttrflyfairytale 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋