I have a b/f. he wants me to move with him. but, that'll me I have to use tranportantion to my work... taking a bus and train where I dont' mine... but the cost would add up.. and I just have a part time job... if i tell him i can't right yet, we have save and make a plan b/c my job change how come he can't move...I end work at 12 at night and that too late to be able catching a train or bus. he works in days so i don't understand why i have to sacfies everything.,, I know this must sound confusing but can you put ur input thank you
2007-02-13 04:37:51 · 2 answers · asked by Jamie T 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like this would be your first time to move out.
don't go into the situation as you describe it... it will only be a matter of time before you feel trapped, and having not lived on your own before, you'd probably feel very lost on your options and such.
sounds like a bad idea...
I know I wouldn't want my gf that relies on public transit getting off work at midnight with no safe form of transportation home.
2007-02-13 04:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by bilko_ca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your B/F sounds controlling, IF you give in on this major decision, be prepared to have him expecting you to ALWAYS give in. Also, your getting off at midnight is dangerous for a woman to be out on her own; then you have lack of transportation, what does he expect you to do? Does he have a car? If so, will he be willing to pick you up each night? IF not, tell him it's not such a great deal for you! IF he loves you so much, he will wait until you can get married, have some money put away, maybe a vehicle to use [don't know where you live, some places cars are not necessary or are a burden, but where I live, a car is a MUST have] Not just one of you should make all the sacrifices, but share in them. That's what couples do, they decide together what is best for the two in the long run. The cost of the transportation might add up to more than the pay of your part time job, which means you'd be working for "free" in essence. How does he feel about that?? Does he have his own place already, is that why he expects you to move in with him? Does he expect you to help with the bills? If so, will he help you with the bus or train passes?? Ask why he can't be the one to move, or the one that needs to travel to the job? It's much safer for a man to travel in daylight than for a woman at midnight. Does he care for your safety?
2007-02-13 05:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋