hi split with ex 4 weeks ago becuase of an argument at work, she got with me 3 weeks after spliting with her bf who she was with 4 years. I treated my ex like a princess cos of what she had been through with her exs. I bought her gifts flowers, chocolettes etc to make up to her and to show her that i cared for her and id do anything for her. my ex says she likes me alot and has got feelings for me but not enough to go out with me just yet. she says therefore can only give me friendship for now. she says she really likes me.some guy at work also lied to her that am married to mess things up. people at work have been spreading alot of stuff about us causing trouble. and we end up arguing i want to be with her cos i like her to much so i txt her today asking her out and she replied am sorry babe my answer still hasnt changed. so basically she said no to me. i am seeing her tommorow. she has let me down many times what do i do ? please help i cant seem to let her go, its cos i care for her
2007-02-13 04:12:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
you cant force her to go back with you. I know its hard but you need to move on.
2007-02-13 04:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by grumpcookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stand back and give her the space she is asking for. Stay friends with her and if more develops it will be a bonus but if you push her you will drive her away and lose a good friend as well. As the saying goes. ' If you love it set if free, if it comes back it is yours' (or something along those lines). Good luck I do hope everything works out but if it doesn't it obviously wasn't meant to be. By the way ignore all the gossip mongers, there are always people around with wooden spoons ready to stir. (polite today aren't I)
2007-02-13 04:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a sayin- love the girl like hell...... if she wants let her go... if she comes back accept her.... if she doesn hunt down the bitc$h........ha... sory but couldn resist the temptaion... why dont you jus move on... i know love n attachment but will fade away with time.. y would u get into a relationship where u give 100% but do not get anything back.... think even if things go ur way n your wish comes true i guess wont help... its a two sided game .. ur mere participation doesnt make the diffrence .. what really makes the diffrence is ur actions which can mould a relationship into whatever form u like.... sorry for being rude n harsh.. all the best..!
2007-02-13 04:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Kabir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oldest rule in the book, with stuff like this, women dont want nice guys in reality, only when theyre in a relationship and looking at the negative stuff.
She may give you 101 reasons but unlikely theyre the truth which you wont hear.
shes prolly seeing someone else or her ex (more likely)
Do yourself a favour and break away
You may love her but not having her is surely adding to that.
IMHO, your doomed, dont screw yourself up more by hanging on to someone that will always say no
ps chances are youll ignore this, go through the nightmare and then wish youd taken notice but it will happen like this
Ask yourself do you really want your life partner to give you this much hassle
2007-02-13 04:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a sweet guy.
here's two things you should do:
first, stop buying her things. don't give her anything. after you're dating you can buy her stuff.
second, stop being all over her. it's sweet, you want to treat her good. but she may feel smothered. she may not feel ready for such a heavy attachment yet, after all she just got out of a relationship. you need to slow down and give her some time to adjust to being single, and adjust herself to being available to other men. just be her friend for now, and be there for her to talk to.
you may have to face the fact that it won't work out between the two of you. it's not a happy thing, but if so, there will be another woman for you who will appreciate you for the things you do. some women go for abusive or "bad" guys. some of them don't grow past that. then there are also people who use people like you for what they can get out of it. so i am strongly cautioning you not to buy her things all the time. you may mistake her gratitude for interest.
i wish you luck.
2007-02-13 04:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by political junkie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she told you she likes you but not enough to go out with you.Then
how could you have finished.I think your a fantasist and should get
real.She says no.Then you say your seeing her tomorrow.All you
will be seeing tomorrow, will be the men in white coats.
2007-02-13 04:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Butt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reach for the stars. When a gal loves you she will want to be with you. EXPERIENCE has shown me -look for LOVE, the 100% golden love - as humans we have the potenial to be in GENIUNE love. Honey don't cry, smile the real LOVE is so waiting for you. Don't take away from your life add to it.
2007-02-13 04:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by celest c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advice, get over it, and get over her. when girls take up with someone shortly after ending a serious relationship it's called "on the rebound." these relationships never go anywhere. in her eyes you were not mister right, rather, mister right then. you need to move on, she will, probably has.
better luck next time.
2007-02-13 04:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is like a dove. Set it free. If it comes back to you then you have true love. (somebody famous said that)
2007-02-13 04:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by R.E.M.E. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋