he says he is only attracted to a small percentage of women and has all these fixed ideas about how they shoud be and look. basically this woman doesn't exist and even if she did she wouldn't want him. so my question is, could he be gay? but doesn't know it
2007-02-13 04:02:57 · 18 answers · asked by curlyloxx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He may have just set his standards so high that no one can fill those shoes. People do this for a reason, but sometimes it takes a professional to know why. If this has been pointed out to him and he still doesn't realize it, then he has a problem. Whether it means he is gay, is debatable. He may be, or he may just be immature for a mature aged man. In any event, talking to a professional couldn't hurt.
2007-02-13 04:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by judyarb1945 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I never really had a relationship and I am 39. I have my qualifications that people would make fun of me and told me I should be a nun and that at my age my list was too long.
I am insulted for your friend that you think he is gay, not that being gay is a bad thing. I am not gay. You shouldn't judge someone because you don't understand them. I had past experiences in my life that caused me to be cautious and know what I do not want in my life. I had to find out who I was. Maybe he has had some serious hardships that you do not know about and he has not shared with you. Let him go at his own pace and when the time is right, God will send the right person to him. If you want to know his personal preference you can ask him. You don't sound like you are a best friend by talking like about him. Saying even if he found the woman with his requirements, she wouldn't want him. That isn't very nice. I am being honest with you. As long as two people who communicate and are honest with one another, they have trust and have a good chance at the relationship being strong. That goes for any relationship for anyone.
I now have a boyfriend and we are honest and communicate and are going at our own paces as a couple. We both have our own issues that we are learning from one another and help each other through them. My boyfriend is very private and maybe your friend is too. I have had a few boyfriends in the past, but nothing serious.
He has to be happy with himself before he could be happy with someone. Maybe he is fine where he is right now and not ready for a relationship with someone. That could be the case too.
2007-02-13 12:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that he is gay, he is god lol he can create a woman according to his idea,too bad ,with desperation.If you want a good belly laugh read some profile of single older men, on dating websites on what they want on a woman, I answer them not to score a date, but to give a good punchline..like a guy said he don't like a woman w/high maintenance of her self,for a coffee date I told him, I'll just carry my purse contends car keys,driver licence and I promise to leave my lipstick at home....Contemporary older Lady.
2007-02-13 12:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may just be using his pickyness as an excuse for the reason he never dates women i.e. he might be gay and ratehr than admit it to anyone, hed rather just pretend that he's REALLY PICKY.
or he might just be really shy and use pickyness as ean excuse to not approach women in fear of being rejected
however on the question of him not knowing that he's gay... no. he'd know if he was gay by age 44!!
2007-02-13 12:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by maraesa1000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, but he might just not be interested in most people. He may also have some personality quirks that drive off most potential romantic partners.
If someone has decided not to compromise on their standards, that's okay. Maybe what he wants is out there.
2007-02-13 12:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've met guys with similar tastes and they literally would rather go without female companionship than date a less than perfect woman (to them). I tried to match one of them up, but after one double date, it was very apparent that he's just super picky when it comes to women and I never, ever tried to match him with anyone else. Unfortunately, he died in a terrible car wreck years ago ---- I miss him terribly! Just love your friend as he is, and if it's meant for him to be with someone, it'll be on his terms.
I wish you well!!!
2007-02-13 12:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. He's just very choosy and particular. Nothing wrong with that in itself but the danger is that he'll never find his 'perfect' partner. That's the main reason he's never had a relationship.
2007-02-13 12:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by Frank Furillo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lol. I applaud him for sticking to his guns and not deviating from his list of Do's for his "perfect" woman. Too bad he'll be alone for the rest of his life, but to each his own I say. Is he gay? Ask 'em, you never know.
2007-02-13 12:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by Pontius 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He could be. Maybe you should bring it up in a subtle way to see how he reacts. Just say that you know a gay person and he's nice etc etc
2007-02-13 12:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
no - just living in a dream world . he will die a lonely old man but that is not your problem. get him a copy of mars & venus on a Date by John Grey. I think you will soon see a difference in him.
2007-02-13 12:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋