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Question

Why shouldn't I KILL MYSELF?
My husband abandoned me and the kids but the judge has ordered that he have them half of the time. I want to see my kids daily. I am thinking of running away with them but them I will get caught and end up in jail and he will have them all of the time. I can't kill him because then a stanger will end up with my kids. This has been going on a year and I can't continue to be this sad. I go to counseling and I take meds but that is not really helping. Life just sucks. Why continue?

Answer 1

I know what it is like to want to die and to live each day feeling that way. I just read a Q from a Celia T perhaps you should too.
It is titled I had a secret life.
What a strong man her husband is. I think I would have killed myself by now.
There is always someone worse off and with the greatest humility I hang my head that I feel hard done by.
What is happening in your life is compounded by medication.
The side affect of antidepressants is DEPRESSION Yes!!
If your husband is to have the children for half of the time you just have to accept it.
But where does that leave you...
Let me see.
You have time to change your life around, broaden your horizons, spoil yourself, and even find love, but first you must go out into the world, and please choose places you havnt been before.
Trully the world is providing you with opportunity.
I prefer to speak from experience, and I assure you the feelings will eventually pass.
Here is some good advice.
No matter what happens never let the other party know how much you are hurting.
if worst comes to worse fake being happy.
Pretend that everything is perfect and instead of resisting, go with it.
Though your husband has abandoned you dont think you are powerless.
A mans ego feeds on knowing that they can creat so much hurt in a woman. Makes them feel powerful like a stud.
Your depression and slow deterioration empowers him.
To think you are on your way to a happy future will certainly pop his bubble...fake it of fail it
I dont even know you but I care.
Is that a good enough reason to live.....I hope so
God bless

Answer 2

Your children need you. You may only get them half of the time, but you can do your best to make that a powerful time for them. When your children are not with you, you should concentrate on activities that will help you get over your pain. Take classes, get a hobby, join a club, and get counseling. Your life is not over. Your life is just beginning.
Counseling will help you if you give it a fair chance. Start being thankful for what you do have. You have children who love you. You have time with them. Some people get a couple weekends a month. It is all baby steps.

Answer 3

Because of your children.
If he abandoned you and its been a year then TRY to leave that painful event in the past. Look forward to the future, your kids achievements in life. Concentrate on helping you better urself by learning to love urself and understand that life is not always fair.
Picture a future, soon enough ur kids will be able to decide if they want to stay with u or continue the way they are.
Don't take their mommy away, they've already lost a home.
NO ONE will ever love ur kids like their mom can.
Please do not give up and seek more proffesional help asap.

Answer 4

Get grip of yourself! Your kids need you and love you. You need to get much better counselling if your thinking this way about your life. Stop pitting yourself and talk more with your doctor. You need to think positive about everything and find ways to be happy with yourself and your kids. Your husband is entitled to seeing the kids as well as you. Remember life is what you make it! Set goals for yourself and meet them. One day there will be someone to love you. Get over this dark area in your life, pick up the pieces and make the best of it. Don't give up that won't help anything! Cocoa

Answer 5

I think you need to look into your resources...... And think of your chlildren. Are you children happy seeing thier father? If they are then you need to get yourself help and come to terms with this as the dad is a part of the childrens life too! If they kids are not happy about it then again look into your resources. I would also seek another Counsler and if the one isn't working for you then maybe another one. Different meds?? Just a suggestion. I think too that you need to look at the big picture! And this is coming from a mother... :) Good luck

Answer 6

Because they would no long have you around at all. Do you want your children to endure that kind of pain? Make the most of the time you have with them. You never know what tomorrow may hold for you and them. Like the saying goes. Tomorrow is the future, today is "A PRESENT", and yesterday is history. Do you really want to be history??? I find that a dreadful thought.

Answer 7

You gave the answer yourself in the question YOUR KIDS.Even if you dont see them everyday they still need thier mother. Killiong yourself is the most selfish thing a person can do, thinkof how it will hurt your kids....they will probably spend the rest of thier lives owndering if they could save you wondering if it was thier fault. Try to work on bettering yourself and focusing on yourself so that you can try to gain more access to your kids. Even if youcant see them everyday, write them a letter everyday so that they know you still care and are still a part of thier lives.

Answer 8

Your life will be what you make of it. If your attitude is that you cannot positively effect your own life and your children, then you won't be able to.

You can do it. All of us have had to endure SOMETHING like this. What the outcome is depends largely on how strong you are.

If your counsellor isn't working for you, find another.

Answer 9

Nothing that happens in life is ever worth taking your own life over. You have reached a low spot and with support from friends and family it will only get better...just remember it won't happen overnight.

Answer 10

You loose the right to kill yourself when you had kids..its a permanent solution to temporary problem..and selfish!