have you wasted your time to find that u let all those years go by w/ lilltle to show 4 it. Emotionally, finiancially, or in any other way? What was it ?What happened?
2007-02-13 03:37:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I feel this way. I'm now 27 and getting divorced. I got married June 2005 and have been with my wife since the fall of 2002. We bought a house in July 2004. I'm giving everything to her just to get away with as little aggravation as possible.
I caught her having an emotional affair right around the time of the wedding, but still went through with it as she promised that it would never happen again. Well, it did. A year later, I've finally stood up for myself and we signed the separation agreement yesterday.
I've lost years off of my life both emotionally and financially. We were living in a house rent-free while engaged, but it wasn't good enough for her so we bought our own place. If we had waited another 6 months to a year we could have saved a lot more money. I've accumulated credit card debt to keep up her lifestyle. I now have nothing to show for it but a broken heart.
I've moved back to the place we lived before, so I hope I can now pay off my debt and get my life back on track financially. Emotionally, it will take a while to repair the damage that's been done.
2007-02-13 03:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to think that I did cheat myself out of something, namely working harder to get into a fantastic school and also cheating myself out of being able to find love.
I know, it sounds pretty mushy, but I'm a pretty closed-off girl. I'm very sociable, but when it comes to letting people get close, I put up a freaking Berlin wall.
I started working for both things in the wrong way... not because what I was doing was wrong, but my mindset was.
For me though, it was feeling cheated about both of those things that made me unhappy and unappreciative of what I did have. One day I just couldn't stand it anymore... and I started to forgive myself for things I can no longer change and just decided to be hopeful ---
Now I look back, and all the things I wanted back then have come true because now I don't believe there's no second chances. If you want something bad enough, it'll happen, the power of belief is everything. If your belief isn't hand in hand with the physical actions you're taking, then that goal you're trying to get to will never be within arm's reach.
2007-02-13 11:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot to show for my life. I'm sorry you don't.
Your life is what you made of it. If it was a waste, it's mostly your own doing.
Unless you are 90 or something, it's not too late to change it.
2007-02-13 11:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel i wasted 10 years of my life, by marrying the wrong man for all the wrong reasons, and spent those 10 years trying to make it work, by giving financially, emotionally, and trying to fix him, and in the end when i finally stuck up for me asking for fair treatment, he left with someone else, he could use because he had already used me up.
2007-02-13 11:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting that you should phrase it as "cheating yourself."
Most of us have been forced to make tough choices at some point in our lives,however, the fact that we made a choice places the blame squarely on ones shoulders. No one make us just sit on the couch and eat bon bons all day! The individual that chooses to go and make something of him/herself is rewarded with fulfillment. This is not to say that everyone who tries to make something of themselves succeeds, but at least they know they tried.
2007-02-13 11:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by jules_xcess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah...you can never "cheat" yourself even if you think your life is a total failure it's not true, because you have affected a lot of people in your life and you have left your mark on them and they on you...so it wasn't a total waste.
2007-02-13 11:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel like I wasted 18 yrs on a man who didn't deserve or appreciate me !
2007-02-13 11:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am wasting my life now! I am spending time on Yahoo Answers!
2007-02-13 11:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by biggimpin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes I do, but then all those experiences helped make me who I am today and I like that person so overall they were what I needed to be Me.
2007-02-13 11:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i feel that i've let my best relationships pass me by because i'm stuck on this guy who continues to abuse me but i just can't get over him i'm in love with him and i've cheated myself and i juss cant stop
2007-02-13 11:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by zorin l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋