from a father who has NEVER been around.. Never called, send money, see him... NOTHING.... Hes a worthless piece of crap, and I dont know if I should file because then he would want to see my son, and I dont want that... Not after 2 years.. what do you think ?
2007-02-13 03:35:53 · 16 answers · asked by greygirl06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your raising your son fine by yourself and his father hasn't been around for 2 years. I don't see a reason to bring him back into your sons life.
2007-02-13 03:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are able to adequately care for the child without child support then perhaps it's better to keep a deadbeat dad out of the child's life.
However if you are struggling and the child is having to do without, then in the child's best interest maybe the father should be required to help support him too.
Do what is best for your son.
Even if you are doing well enough financially, any child support you get could be put away for your son to use down the road (college or something of that nature).
2007-02-13 03:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wondered the same thing before I filed for support for my 13 yr old.. My son was only 5 then and at first I only went for paternity, because he was spreading around rumors that he wasn't the father..
But you know what?? I fiqure if they are "man" enough to make the child, they should be "man" enough to take care of them one way or another.. When I first decided to go for support too, he did turn around and file for visitation....that lasted all of just a few months..
Now, I still get support for my son, but his father has not seen him in about 4 yrs...even though he has visitation rights..
So even if your ex files for visitation, doesn't mean that he'll get it or stick with it..
2007-02-13 03:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Termite 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you aware how dumb it makes YOU sound to have been impregnated by a "worthless piece of crap"? By insulting the man with whom you chose to create a new life, you are insulting yourself. You are also insulting your child, who shares some of his father's genes.
As a man who believes in upholding one's responsibilities, yes, you should file for child support. One of the reasons men like him go around creating a bunch of fatherless children is because women like you let them off the hook financially. If nothing else, being forced to pay money will make him think about the consequences of his decisions in life.
2007-02-13 03:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. I have full custody, he doesn't call them or try to see them, I call the AG every month to make sure he pays, which he doesn't, but this also stops him from having a license, being able to buy property, get a tax refund, and have a great chance at going to jail, until he pays. Its not about the money but about the responsibility that he doesn't have and the money if and when it ever comes will benefit my kids. But I also have full custody so if I don't want him to see them I can say no.
2007-02-13 03:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to take your feelings out of it.. If he is a good person who are you to say he cannot be around.. Maybe he thinks you are an awful person?? I am not trying to be mean but you have to see both sides and sometimes we end up being so mad at the fathers because of what they have done to us that we let it cloud the right thing to do for our kids..
Either way he has to pay for his child bottom line.. And if you are concerned about how he will be with your child get the child protective services involved and tell them your concerns!! Good Luck it is not easy I KNOW!!!!!
2007-02-13 03:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Funny..............the guy wasn't a "piece of crap" when you spread your legs and had sex with him. But suddenly he's a "piece of crap" now that you have a son to take care of? Interesting. Go get a court order, sue him for child support and back child support, and if he wants visitation with his son then you can cross that bridge when you come to it.
2007-02-13 03:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my children haven't seen thier father in 10 years. He pays child support monthly. Chances may be that if he has had no contact with the child, he may not want it now. You shouldn't have to support the child on your own, it takes two to tango. He pulled his pants down and played, now it's time to pull his wallet out and pay! You and your child both deserve that. Good Luck!
2007-02-13 03:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by samlee1976 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don't even have to face him to get child support... just go downtown and bring the info they need for the child support. call them 1st but they'll want to know where he lives where he works and his ss# if you have it. they will take it from there. they will take it out of his pay weather he likes it or not...chances are he still won't want to see your son and if he does it won't last for more than one visit. my ex faught and faught to see my girls and when he had to come pick them up he was a no show .. they don't want to be dads so why should that change now?
2007-02-13 03:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should file and receive child support on behalf of your son....that's HIS money, not your's....what if he wants to go to Harvard when he's 18--he could be going on Daddy's dime...
And while you're in court, get a definitive visitation order. You can ask for anything you want, see if you get it---supervised visits, visitation for only 3 hours, etc etc.
2007-02-13 03:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋