heres the deal,
i have this girl "friend" whom i met by my boyfriend, shes a cool chick i love hanging out with her, we used to have tons of fun together but lately she's been acting a little shady with me. she doesnt answer my calls or returns any messages i leave & whenever she does answer her phone she hangs up on me then later clams the call failed...
i really dont get it, why is she acting weird with me.
i know its not because of my boyfriend, shes married to my guys best friend, if not that then why??
can anyone help?
2007-02-13 03:33:51 · 16 answers · asked by p@nKiss 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to confront her about it if that friendship is important to you. She may be mad at you but unless you ask her directly what the problem is or if she's mad at you, you could end up spending too much time "in the dark,"speculating & worrying about it. If she's not mad at you for any paticular reason then maybe she just doesn't like you anymore. (Some people are shallower than they first appear.) If that's the case there are a ton more people out there that will be a good friend to you.
2007-02-13 03:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People change, that's a fact of life.
There are many reasons for this, some are fair others are not, whatever the reason, it happens to everyone. Maybe you've changed in her point of view, that could of happened without you even noticing.
Stop calling her and stop sending messages. Maybe she has a problem of her own that she is not ready to share with anyone yet. Persisting on contacting her and asking what the problem is is only going to make things worse. You've shown that you are a good friend by already calling and messaging, she knows it and now the ball is in her court, let her make the next move.
2007-02-13 04:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I think people are strange creatures, nothing you can do about it. Here is one theory out of hundreds that are equally possible: her boyfriend started saying stuff about you to her to make her jealous. Like, "that p@anKiss is sooo hot" or "I think @anKiss has a thing for me" (BTW,, do you?). There's nothing that can be done in these cases because you wont even be aware of what the cause is.
It could also be that you actually did something to bum her out, butsince she's not talking to you, just learn to deal with it. If you do move on, chances are she'll eventually crawl out of her cave and maybe you can return to some level of civil interaction.
2007-02-13 03:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Dull 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This same thing happened to me. I think people act like this because they feel guilty about something and they think that by pretending like you don't exist anymore, they can ignore their guilt. You probably remind her of something she doesn't like about herself so she feels defensive. But instead of acting like a mature person and just telling you she doesn't feel comfortable hanging out anymore (for whatever her reason is), she just leaves you hanging. This way, she does not have to take the reponsibility for being the "bad guy." These people are passive-aggressive. THEY see themselves as the victims and figure that as long as they make up excuses for not talking to you or ignore your attempts to connect, they won't have to play the mean (responsible) role of simply being honest. Steer clear of these emotionally unenlightened types.
2007-02-13 04:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody can tel you exactly what is going on because nobody knows how that girl's personality is outside in the real world.. but i can tell you this much:
If your "friend" is acting weird all of a sudden, then sit down and have urself a nice one-on-one with her. figure out if you did anything to harm her feelings or if she is simply trying to hide something from you.
If you already did that or tried to do that and it didnt work out that good, then try again if you want to save a possible friendship. if you really dont want to;
think if it was really worth it. you are currently calling her a "friend" with quotation marks. is that friendship really worth it?
~nina
2007-02-13 03:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by NiN@ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
puke she sounds like my so called best friend and maid of honor in my wedding! the instant I got engaged she's turned into the nastiest ***** I've ever met, she talks about my fiance all nasty, how I can do better and she hates him and hates me. I honestly can't stand her anymore. People change to you because either you've grown up and outgrown her or she's just a two faced *****. Either way it sounds like you shouldn't even be bothered with her. It's probably nothing you even did, she's just being a ***** because she can and has nothing better to do with her time. I'd hang with someone nicer if I were you
2007-02-13 03:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a best friend just lik that and i juss let her go i mean she would never call, never hangout, but when she had problems with a chick at school or a boyfriend problem she had my shoulder so one day i got to school and she was acting like she always does and i left her hanging by herself and when she found out that the ones she was hanging with didn't care about her as much as i did she juss couldn't believe it so now we cool or watever but she'll never be my best friend again
2007-02-13 03:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by zorin l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people change. Is she hanging with a new crowd because that is the main reason you will see drastic changes in someone over a very short period of time.
2007-02-13 03:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 01:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-13 04:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋