My husband abandoned me and the kids but the judge has ordered that he have them half of the time. I want to see my kids daily. I am thinking of running away with them but them I will get caught and end up in jail and he will have them all of the time. I can't kill him because then a stanger will end up with my kids. This has been going on a year and I can't continue to be this sad. I go to counseling and I take meds but that is not really helping. Life just sucks. Why continue?
2007-02-13 03:30:40 · 13 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because if you kill yourself, who will your kids be able to look to when the father ran off?
You have a repsonsibility as a mother.
Dont leave them behind
"God has given you life.
Only he can choose to take it."
2007-02-13 03:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by The J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The judge gave him half custody for a good reason. You are a mess. Not to say we all havent been there once or a while in our life but your coping skills are pretty much gone. You need to get over the break up. You need to let the dad see his kids and you are going to have to accept it. I suggest you take on a different councellor or else find a psycho-therapist or something because if it hasnt helped you then you need to find something that does. If you need to take a vacation to find yourself and get over the bitterness you should. You cant go on like you are but killing yourself because of it is just stupid. Be open to solutions. The reason you dont want life to work is because you refuse to see solutions.
2007-02-13 12:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will continue for your children... aint them the reason why you feel so sad.. imagine how sad this will make them.. and the guilt do you really want to put this upon them?..if you dont agree with the courts desision you can appeal it.. and if that dont work make the time you do have with them special and fun.. they will be your children for ever, nobody can change that.. try to look for a positive side of this making your self sick is not the answer. Your kids need you.. stop this nonsense about dying.. think of the people who is sick and have very little time to live they are not going to get to see their kids either and i bet you can find them now making each day counts.. be strong.. and accept the time you have with your kids as a gift soon they will be grown and then they will move with you anyways.. good luck.
2007-02-13 11:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You continue because of your children. You claim to be so upset because your ex has them half of the time. If you die, he will get them all the time. How selfish could you be? Those kids need you more now than ever and you are here thinking of only yourself. Your husband should have full custody. Any mother who would dare volunteer to take their own lives are not good mothers. Thank you.
2007-02-13 11:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have to find a way to make his life suck more than yours. One of the best things in life is to find ways to make others miserable. It is a guilty pleasure that you should not deny yourself. You know him better than most anyone else in his life. I am sure you know his daily routine down to a tee. I am positive that you can think of a scheme that will make his life miserable. Be creative and take some initiative. The more creative you are, the more miserable the results. Good times!!!
2007-02-13 12:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Killing yourself (although a common though amongst the depressed) is purely selfish. It only removes you from the situation. And destroys your children. And allows your ex to "win". I say, get up, get showered, put on some make-up, and make a list of the things your would do if you weren't in this situation ie: go to school, get dream job, travel, invest, gain knowledge, meet new people, join a book club, and most importanly lose yourself in service. Get out of your pity pot and help some one else out. Maybe there is someone in your town that is in need of your services.
Help someone else out and forget about your crappy problem. Kiss your kids when they go visit there dad and then hug them the second they get home.
Start small, don't beat yourself up. You can do this.
2007-02-13 11:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by ktragyrl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if he got a judge to order that he have the kids half the time, then it sounds like he only abandoned YOU.
Why continue? Because things will always get better.
2007-02-13 11:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why waste a long winded response. because of your children. If you truly love them you wouldn't abandon them. Maybe daddy sucks but at least your children will have the knowledge of both parents and they can judge for themselves if your bitterness is From daddy leaving them or the fact he left you. No one should suffer through the knowledge of their mother committing suicide.
2007-02-13 11:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by postmasterfsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you carry on for your kids, we all do. we love our kids, and do whatever we can for them. can you take your kids to school everyday, that way you could see them everyday, could you pick them up from school, volunteer at the school as a playground watch person. or cafeteria person. make the time with you kids special with walks and talks, tell them if they are old enough how you are feeling, you can share your feelings with your kids, tell how much you love them and that not seeing them everyday really hurts you. you need to think of your kids and not yourself now. what would you killing yourself do to them emotional for the rest of there lives?????
2007-02-13 11:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because as long as you are still breathing than things can always get better. Mostly because your kids need you.
2007-02-13 11:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Candy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋