I was abused when i was 6 untill i was 12 . When he left last year i was so happy , he was warned by the police . But i just cant seem to feel free from him . Hes never contacted me in a year but i was friends with his sister and she recently phoned , i just dont want him coming near me (hes 7 years older thn me) but i still want to see my friend .
2007-02-13 03:27:56 · 27 answers · asked by catherine c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it maybe hard but u need 2 get ur head straight. By forgetting what has happened 2 u and start getting on with ur future because if u carry on remembering what has happened u might begin 2 feel depresses, unhappy, withdrawn, ect. this also means u need 2 forget everything 2 do with him including his sister (but if u cant and u still want to be her mate, u need to set sum boundaries with her eg we can meet up somewhere where hes not there. and tell her not 2 mention him. so u can begin 2 get on with ur life).
2007-02-15 07:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by ?*?*? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for what has happened to you but the first thing you should do is go to the police and report him, its only a matter of time before he does this to someone else (if he is not doing it to someone already!), you know he is a danger and only you can stop him.
confide in a friend (not his sister) and with her support make the report, only then can you truly move on, when he is behind bars getting his head kicked in by the other inmates where he belongs
Good luck You can do this if not for yourself but for all the 6 year old little girls he may come into contact with xx
2007-02-13 11:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should break off all contact with that family if you want to feel free. The sister could tell your abuser deliberately or accidentally where you are, what you're doing, etc. This could allow this pervert back into your life. It's sad to lose a friend, but I can't see how you could stay in contact with her knowing what her brother did to you.
2007-02-13 11:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really matters how old you are now. Eventually you will be able to differentiate that abused child you were from the grown up you are today. It took me until I was 30 to be able to do this. I hope you can do it sooner than I could. I think you are in a position of power right now with this man. You can get him arrested and I think he is going to be more scared of you than the other way around perhaps.
2007-02-13 11:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must try to enjoy your life,make new friends and forget the past as much as you can.Tell your Friend what happened.She will be upset but that's only natural. You may have to forfeit the friendship ,unless she knows what happened .You cannot carry this alone speak to your parents, Didn't they know about this,its very involved and will take a lot of adjustment,You can report this crime to the law,he deserves to be punished for what he did.
2007-02-13 12:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was abused at the same age but i was getting lots of hassle off of the guy for 2 years (who was a lot older) i was friends with his daughter and carried that friendship on after he left i decided he'd taken enough from me and he wasn't going to take my friend to i'm 24 now and i'm notgoing to lie to you i still think about what happened all the time and it dose still hurt but i don't let it control my life i have 2 children that i'm very protective over
talk to your friend tell her you want to be friends with her you just don't want her brother anywhere near you
2007-02-13 11:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by nat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to have a long talk with ur frnd.. And expain how u feel u need ta let er no that ur safety and well being is in front of everything.. She shud understand but if she is taking er bros side ... ur beeta off walking away i no it will be hard but u need to think head on into this situation!!!
2007-02-13 11:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by XxCXx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask his sister not to contact you when her brother is around, and if he ever does any thing to you than that is the time to get the police involved.
2007-02-13 11:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the Attorney Generals office, file a complaint and have him locked up.
You could be saving your friend or some other girl from the same abuse.
2007-02-13 11:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jack Tax 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about what happened to you...Really, I consider that you forget about your friend and think about yourself. You have got to put urself first and if you keep on nurturing that friendship you will always remember what happened...i'm not saying that you'lll forget but at least you wont have that constant reminder everytime when ur with her..If shes ur friend she will understand...Just keep the relationship on a 'Hi and Bye' basis..
2007-02-13 12:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by <>~~Katie~~<> 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋