Is fighting okay?

Question

ok my dad has always been gone my whole life ive only seen him every now and then ,but i never get along with his girlfriend,because she tries acting like he's her so we got in a fight and i beat her up,and now my dads taking her side but still wants to talk to me should i let him?or should i do what everyone is saying and leave them alone.also iam 17 and my friendsall have sex and they want me to but i was raped when i was younger,when iam with certian people i want to have sex but iam scared should i move on or keep letting people go.I wont even go out with anyone.i have only slept with one person,and everyone say's iam a ho.i really need help.thanks

Answer 1

Well about your dad situation, leave your dads gf alone your feeling it of jealousy let your dad know you want to spend time with him and stuff but not with her there and if he cant make time for just you then, probably best to leave them alone. About you having sex wait until your ready but sooner or later your going to have to get over being raped it might take alot but you dont want it to ruin your life. Good luck

Answer 2

You seem to have a good grasp on what is happening in your life right now.

Any female who would fight with you and your dad not intervening- well- forget about them. (I called her "female" because "woman" is not a term that will fit with this person, as any woman would not fight with someone your age)

So, NO, fighting is not okay. You are above that. Try it. It works. It relieves you of having to fight and leaves the decision of an adult fighting with a minor on THEM- and- as far as I know that is illegal.

But even more important is that you remove yourself from these people.

As far as sex goes, you are too smart to have sex before marriage. (Rape doesn't count. You are still a virgin if you haven't consented to sex. I hope you have counseling-bless your heart.)

Yes, there are really cute guys out there that want to use you for sex.
They will say that they love you and anything else they think you want to hear.

You are too smart to fall for that.

You are at risk because of your up-bringing and environment.

If your friends make fun of you because you aren't having sex, then you are on the right track! It means they don't care about you- they just want you to fall into the same scene they have fallen into. If you do it, they are okay, right? (WRONG! Don't fall for it.)

Find new friends. Find positive people. You are too valuable to this world to throw your self away to worthless rubbish.

Answer 3

Wow! You seem really screwed up. Maybe you need to find a few guys that you like and really let yourself go. Give yourself to them and everything should start to get better in a short matter of time. As far as being a ho, I do not think you are yet. You should also fight and stand up for yourself. Good times!!!

Answer 4

if u havesex then make sure u ready dont do it bcuz everybody and they mama doin it but dont hold back bcuz u got raped when u was younger bcuz its always goin to be there beleave me i kno how it feels sweetheart just let go mamas

Answer 5

you have lots of problems. you should seek professional help. and for Pete sakes don't add further to them