2007-02-13 03:14:31 · 16 answers · asked by SunShine 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As I told my daughter when she informed us that she was a Lesbian..."I loved you before you told us and I love you now...you haven't changed in my eyes. Although those out in the world who can't understand and who don't know you for the terrific person you are and will judge you based only on this...remember, we are the place you can always come back to."
If your parents don't take this news well...give them a little bit to digest it. Some parents aren't able to accept this news very well and others, like us and friends of ours whose son is gay, deal with it with unconditional love. You have to expect the worst and hope for the best...
A parent is always a parent...a child is always their child, disowning ones own because of their sexual preference goes totally against what parenting should be about. A child, regardless of age, regardless of sexual preference is not something you toss to the curb when they do something or are someone other than what a parent expects.
I hope it goes well for you...remember to let them take all of this in and get through the adjustment (this is a major confession for you and a major adjustment for them to make).
Good luck
2007-02-13 03:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing u can do. If I were a part of your family I would not like that u were a lesbian because I believe that is wrong in the eyes of God and it says so in the bible (King James version), but I would still love and care about u, I would just be disappointed if u continued to live your life that way. A lot of Gay people always say that God still loves them and that is true, but he definitely does not love love the sin.
2007-02-13 03:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-27 20:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are people and have their own thoughts, values, traditions, beliefs etc. While it may be difficult both for you and them, that is their right. It doesn't make it easy and they really should have more tolerance and unconditional love. However, things being as they are, you should still continue to love them as your family and accept them for who THEY are. That is the very thing that you are wanting from them. It doesn't make it easy, but perhaps they will see your love for them and begin to share theirs back to you.
In the meantime, there are others in your same situation that could be a support for you. Additionally, even if no one else in the world seems to care, there is always a loving God in Heaven who will listen to you and help you. Seek him out in prayer.
2007-02-13 03:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family disowns you because of your sexual orientation they really dont deserve to be your family. Although you should not cut ties with your entire family just because a few of them feel this way. You should think about which family member has always been there for you, most likely they will still accept you even if they dont approve of you r lifestyle.
2007-02-13 03:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by ottomated420 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sun, you are projecting, they have not done this yet...I am an adult woman with 2 grown kids and all I can tell you is that most parents love their children what ever...give em a chance before you start to fret over what might be...you may be very surprized with how they react...we are not always as closed minded as we may seem!!!! They may not like it at first...but time works wonders...you are not doing anything wrong, remember that...and being honest is always best...give em a chance...good luck...
2007-02-13 03:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of such things! I'm sure your family loves you. But if you keep on hiding such a secret, they would eventually find out. It's good that you are admitting you are a lesbian. Liars go to hell, right? Haha. Just kidding. Follow your heart, okay?
2007-02-13 03:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by cheska 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you haven't told them already, and you think it's a possibility, you should have some backup plan in place. Find a friend you can crash with for awhile, till you can figure out where to go next.
2007-02-13 09:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your own family ... meaning surround yourself with people that will love and support you and that will not judge you because you are not a cookie cutter version of them. But I hope and pray your family loves you enough to get over it because most people want to be accepted by their families.
2007-02-13 03:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough question. All I can say is you have to be true to yourself. Your family or at least some members will eventually get over it. Others may never. That's their problem not yours.
2007-02-13 03:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by smilindave1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋