My best friends pregnant , shes only 16 and her mum and dad have enough to deal with ! i dont know what to do but i need to try and help her
2007-02-13 02:57:16 · 35 answers · asked by catherine c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell her to keep her legs closed.
2007-02-16 14:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not all that much you can do for her, short of being her friend, because she needs one of those more than anything right now. Encourage her to tell her mom and dad though, this is WAY too big for her to deal with on her own, or even with friends, she needs her parents support and guidance on this one.
Learn from her mistake as well, don't let yourself get into a situation where the same thing might happen to you. Her life will never again be the same.
2007-02-13 06:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be helpful and understanding to your best friend. If shes scared reassure her. She will need to tell her parents so be there when she does, give her some support. This is going to be a big thing for her at 16. i am 19 and i have found it very hard. My sons 6 weeks old and feeds every two hours, but i love him so much i am glad i had him. So talk through every option with your friend. When i was 16 my friend became pregnant but unfortunately she lost it but i was there to support her and keep her strong.
2007-02-13 20:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got preggo when I was 16 and it's not easy!
The best thing you can do is be supportive of her in every way you can. Don't isolate her. Spend time with her and let her know that your there for her. All my friends abandoned me when I was pregnant. It was like I had some kind of disease or something. Don't do that. Talk to her about how she feels and what's she's gonna do. Encourage her to stay in school. These may seem like small things but believe me, its great that she has a friend like you. Especially if the father isn't around and her parents aren't so happy about it. I had a school counselor that was always there for me and to this day I still remember this lady. And that was 21 years ago.
2007-02-13 03:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is going to need all the support she can find. Make sure you are there for her. And she will need to tell her parents as soon as possible. This will be difficult for her.. but let her know you are there for her. My best friend got pregnant at 16 and she made sure she graduated top in her class and she also worked to make ends meet. So encourage her to stay in school and help her as much as possible. Good luck.
2007-02-13 03:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was pregnant with my first at 15. we were in the middle of moving house my Nana had died just 4 weeks before and worst of all i was moving along away away from where i lived.. i found out when i moved to my new home.i told my mum because you cannot keep it from them and do you want to know something she was really excited about it. i am now 21 with a 4 1/2 year old and a 2 1/2 year old I'm in my own home my new partner who i have been with now for 5 years in September. u are doing a good job but please tell her to tell her mum..hope all goes well.
2007-02-13 21:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by lady z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the nasty people on here, a coat hanger?! Sick these are two human beings we are talking about! Be there for her she will need a lot of help and optimistic people there for her. My husbands Mom had him when she was 15 and things turned out great for her and I am so glad she decided to keep him.
Let your friend know while this is a big deal it is not the end of the world it is the beginning of a new one, and if she doesn't want a baby there are plenty of wonderful people our there who are just waiting for a beautiful new baby.
2007-02-13 03:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by erin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well start my not telling her that her parents have enuf 2 deal with without her being pregnant! my step mum said that to me about me being pregnant. she didn't really like the reply that most of my mums troubles started when she stole my dad from her...ANYWAYS. all u ahve 2 do is keep being her friend. when she tells her 'rents dnt sit there going 'i told u so' when they are angry! just carry on as u were b4. u knew how 2 b her m8 b4, so why does it have to change just cuz she's having a baby?
2007-02-13 12:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a friend the only thing you can do, is be there for her when she needs someone to talk to. Her parents may already have enough to deal with, but this is their daughter, and they will have to deal with this too. She needs to tell her parents, so that they can talk it out and make preparations.
2007-02-13 03:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry you had to read some of those previous answers. some people are being really cruel. yes having underage sex is stupid and yes its even stupider when you arent using conteception but its happened and you cant change it. she has 3 choices - abortion, keep it or adopt it. if she has a steady boyfriend he should be informed. see what he has to say. then the parents must be told. i no that its hard and i understand but if they arent told at this early age it will get harder. they can help support your friend and choose the best decision for her. remember to consider her education, her future and how she will cope both finanically and emotionally. best of luck and i hope things turn out ok for you.
2007-02-13 06:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by irishsmurf1616 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be there for her whatever she decides to do. If you can convince her to tell her parents then that would be great, whatever they've got on there plates they will want to know so they can help her. How you think parents are going to react, is often much worse than how they really do.
2007-02-14 01:38:12 · answer #11 · answered by fluffynickers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋