i feel so bad for her and cant give any good advice.
she has been with the man she loves for like 3 years...she cannot stand his whiny bratty daughter and it is tearing her apart to the point where she wants to leave him...but is so in love with him...of course the daughter comes first...what should she do?
2007-02-13 02:46:45 · 14 answers · asked by twatwaffle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I would do things like this. First she needs to pray for forgiveness for all the things she know is not right that she was thinking against the young lady. Now she needs to call her boyfriend to the side and let him know her do's and don'ts. She then needs to to inform him on how the young lady makes her feel and ask him to take her feeling into consideration. Tell him that, she is not trying to ruin the father daughter relationship but if things do not change then she will have to take a step back and give him and his daughter space. Respect goes along way and she deserves it and if the young lady can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all. Tell your friend, that 3yrs is okay, but if she is not happy it is all a waste of time... Life is to short to hold on to things that is not healthy for her so let it go!
2007-02-13 02:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she needs to handle this very carefully, parenting is a tough subject for single fathers it seems. The only thing she can do is let him know that the actions of his daughter are pushing her away and if can't start being firm with her about the whiny and misbehavior then she would prefer if they just dated when he can time away from her.
He is creating a monster by not correcting this behavior and he will be the one to suffer in the long run when she gets older and the brattiness turns into disrespect.
2007-02-13 10:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by tonafun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she has to think about the fact that if she marries this guy, she is stuck with his daughter. If she can't stand her, then it will tear the two apart. Maybe she should talk to the guy about it. Maybe she is doing it because she thinks your friend is trying to be her new mother. The father should definately talk to his daughter about it, and maybe she will settle down. If not, she needs to leave him. It's never going to get better.
2007-02-13 10:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to watch super nanny on tv, its basically coming down to the child having and giving respect to her, the father also needs to help set some boundries, that even though shes not her real mom, she needs to be treated like a parental figure, and if the childs behavior continues punishment will follow. However if the father isnt on board getting his spoiled brat straight then its a lost cause.
2007-02-13 10:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is so important the age of the child. she does not like another woman occupy her mothers place. your friend has to wait with patience to change the mood of the child. her father has also the responsibility to explain his position to the child. the child is 100% correct in her attitude. one day or other she will realize . be patient time only solve the problem
2007-02-13 10:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by ayal p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to sit down and set rules that they both can agree on and stick to them. Number one rule, use your words, no whining allowed... He needs to talk to his daughter and tell her this behavior is no longer acceptable and will have a consequence if she doesn't start using her words.
2007-02-13 10:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves him, she needs to suck it up and deal with it. My ex-husband has a new girlfriend and she does not like our 2 daughters, that is mean and bit***. Kids are kids.
2007-02-13 10:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by NA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The daughter will always come 1st . Its OK .... The whine is only in your eyes.. Not her beautiful eyes.....Some of us were made to be good moms ....some weren't!!!!!!!
2007-02-13 10:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend needs to find the root cause of why this girl ask this, and she needs to express the love for the girl to her man, but tell him that she's having troubles with how to handle her, and is torn and needs his opinion. maybe that would open his eyes, if he sees her distress. sometimes men are blinded when it comes to their little girls, you have to tread lightly
2007-02-13 10:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
god, what a nightmare. she has to explain to him how she feels, as hard as that may be. she probably feels that he'll choose his daughter over her, but if he really loves her, then maybe they can find a compromise.
2007-02-13 10:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by neonjack 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋