Last night i slept with this girl who i have known for ages, i've always fancied her but never thought she was that interested. We actually became really good mates, then last night, i dont really know what happened, one minute we were watching a dvd and the next you can guess. What do i say to her? i'm adament i want to keep her friendship no matter what, will this effect it or does she want a relationship, i dont know whats going on and i've got no idea how to react or what to say when i see her next. If anyone has some advice that would be great. Cheers.
2007-02-13 02:33:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Awkward situation - tread carefully.
I would say that firstly you need to have a realy hard think about what you actually want from this relationship. Do you want to continue as friends or would you like more? Once you have it clear in your head, I would suggest comtacting this girl. Arrange to meet, for example. the following day. This gives her time to think too - knowing that she will be coming to meet you. Take her for a meal or even just a drink - but somewhere on mutual ground. Then be totally up front and honest and tell each other exactly how you feel and where you want to go from here. I know you are probably thinking it will be rally embarrassing - but she will be feeling in the same boat too remember. You have to sort things out - the longer you leave it, the more you run the risj of loosing her as both a friend and girlfriend.
Good luck - wish you well x
2007-02-13 02:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I cant tell you how to react cos its just natural and personal to you.
But if you really want to keep your friendship, you have to try and draw a line underneath it and make sure it never happens again.
Try and talk to her and see if it was a one-off in her eyes or if she wants it to progress into a relationship, but just be mindful that if you really are great friends, you won't be if the relationship turns sour and then you will have doubly lost out.
I know this as I slept with my best mate and we were like "oh yeah this is ok, just do it whenever" but someone always develops more feelings (namely me in this instance) and it never works out. Now if we're in the same pub, we dont even make eye contact.
2007-02-13 10:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well bin there done that, and its bloody hard to get back to being friends, in my case we lost our friendship cos we no longer could talk about things that mates talked about just cos i was a girl we was more like two lads i was a tom boy and we used to tell each other every thing but now we see each other many years on and all we do is say hello and then walk .one night of drunken maddness left me with a life with out my best mate,
just be you and hope she is feeling the same and in time you can laugh about it,or hope she liked what she had and wants more,good luck mate x
2007-02-13 13:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by rob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a relationship and friendship at the same time. In fact the best relationships are friendships as well. Just talk to her you say you are good friends. She's probably thinking the same thing.
2007-02-13 10:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by SilverSurfer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have hit the nail on the head with your question above, but you should be speaking with her instead, ask her if she wants a sexual relationship with you for real, other wise you would prefer to stay friends as you do not want to lose somebody so great.
Maybe she feels the same as you, and you can start a relationship with one off your best Friends.
2007-02-13 10:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her, if you have been mates for ages she may feel the same, were u both drunk, cos that happens,. my best mate is a lad and we met when we were nine, he stuck up for me, we have gone through all the **** and are still friends. the only obstacles in a boy /girl friendship is the partners. trust me x good luck
2007-02-16 19:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by squawinpants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see her next just carry on as normal as though nothing has happened. Wait for her to bring the subject up and talk about it then. You never know she could be looking a relationship with yout. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you. x.
2007-02-13 10:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Niks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've picked the right time of year matey, given the significance of Wednesday's date - so a thank you note attached to a large bunch of flowers and a box of chocolates and see what happens thereafter - good luck to the pair of you
2007-02-13 11:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it would all depend on how you actually feel about this girl, you have been friends a while and you must find her attractive too, so whats stopping you from making the next step??
Ask her if she enjoyed herself and take it from there, if she says it was a mistake you have your answer, if she says 'yes' she did enjoy herself...................i hear wedding bells in the future..................good luck
2007-02-13 10:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude first of all bad move, if your just friends STAY FRIENDS, second of all, tell her whats up say that you just want to be friends and what happend that night was an accident you did not want want it or you kind of did and you would like to stay friends
Cheers
2007-02-13 10:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋