How do you know when the time is right to have another Child?

Question

I am a young mother (23) and I am pondering the thought of having another child. I am not one to live with regrets later on...but my husband and I are both very unsure because our home would need to be done up to accomidate another child...and we are not ready to sell since we just bought the house in 2006. Between our jobs and are already hectic life we just can't seem to grasp the full idea of having another. So I am asking parents out there who have more than one child...how did you decide & what obstacles did you have to encounter?

There are other thoughts about cost since when we had our first we had help with formula & baby sitting. Now we make more money but our exspenses have increased as well. So having another and paying the total cost of formula and paying for a full time sitter is another reason we are shying away.

Answer 1

my husband and i struggled with money before our first was born but we managed and now we have a home and steady income, we have finally gotten to a place where we can live comfortablyy rather than paycheck to paycheck. We always knew we would have another one but went back and forth about when the right time would be. We decided to do what we did the first time and just stop taking birth control and see what happened, my thought is whatever is meant to be will be, i am now 17 weeks pregnant with #2 (my son will be 2 next month), it is a little scary, we wonder if we are going to have to struggle again but our son was such wonderful motivation to save and work hard that we just know things will work out. Just like when people worry that they will not be able to love a second child as much as they love their first but the love comes and all those worries go away, i think it will be the same money wise (and with life in general), where there is a will there is a way. Maybe just try to get pregnant and see what happens, your body will know if it is the right time or not.
Good luck

Answer 2

I have a 3 year old and 9 weeks pregnant with #2.

We bought our house in 2005 hoping for more one more child. We have the room, financially stable, the love, and the support system in place for another child. I'm lucky that I can work an alternate schedule so my son is only in school 2 days a week. I'm hoping to be able to continue working after, but if we decide that's not the best decision, we'll be tighter money wise, but still able to survive.

Answer 3

Having a baby has nothing to do with money or space. God will provide for you no matter what your situation is. We waited until our first would be at least 3 whe our second was born. Once you have the second baby, you will not notice a difference at all. You will be amazed :)

Answer 4

Definately wait until the first one listen to your command, or you'll be picking up for 2....

Answer 5

if u don feel someone's missin at the family table durin din din then
that's your answer