Can one be so balanced that they are not attraced to others after marriage?? If they are attracted what should they do??
Please give me honest answers.
2007-02-13 02:24:31 · 19 answers · asked by suma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's human nature for people to be attracted to others . . . married or not. It's the love we feel for our partners that grounds us to them.
2007-02-13 02:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by ladydi_1987 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I tell you, I just kinda asked the same question, b/c I am confused about it too...I just think there is way too much temptation in the world, I mean yeeearrrrs ago, cheating and divorce didn't happen as much as it does now. I think sex is just everywhere and ppl get way to tempted and forget about morals. Im not married, but i have been seenig someone and i kinda like someone else, and i feel horrible. I think it is normal to look and be attracted, but at the end of the day, you need to remember why you married the person you did, and for some people I believe they have truley met their soulmate, and don't care about anyone else, I wish I could find that !!!
2007-02-13 10:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One would have to be dead not to be attracted to others. Its not a concious decision, like Luther said, the heart does what it wants to do. The problem arises when the rest of the body does what the heart wants to do. The best thing you can do is keep it all under your hat, you will be surprised how you can go from rabid desperation to recovering addict without the other person (or your spouse) having any idea about it.
Stay out of trouble, less stress, God bless.
2007-02-13 10:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not right. I was married 5 years, 20 years and have been engaged to a wonderful man for 4 years now and never was I "attracted" to any one else during the time I was married. It is human nature to "look" and even "admire" others that are nice looking but not be attracted to others, it would be like saying your spouse lacked whatever it is that attracts you to another
2007-02-13 10:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People find different things in other people appealing. Having an attraction to someone is very natural, but what you do with it is important. If you are in an exclusive relationship, you can't act on it, but that doesn't mean you can't appreciate another persons good qualities. Everyone fantasizes about other people - it is not about being balanced, it is called being in denial.
2007-02-13 10:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by scatty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be attracted to other people after you've married. You can't do anything about it. There's no balance. If you are attracted to someone other than your spouse, that's okay, just don't act on your feelings toward the other person.
2007-02-13 10:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by Hey you! 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're attracted to other people. You're married, not dead. You just need to learn that no attraction is worth betraying the trust of someone who loves you. Also, the attraction you feel for your spouse far surpasses any attraction you feel for someone else. If you feel attraction, just remove yourself as best you can from the situation. Do the right thing.
2007-02-13 10:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's part of being human to be attracted to other people. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to another person. That is instinctive. It's all about control. It's about what is more important, an hour of good sex with this other person , or a lifetime of love and sex with your lover
2007-02-13 10:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by downinahole87 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for about 1 1/2 years and I haven't payed attention to any other men. It may also be that he's physically attractive and I don't need to look at anyone else/
2007-02-13 10:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If they are attracted to another they shouldn't act on it. I think its normal to find others attractive as long as you're not fantasizing.
2007-02-13 10:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋