So my wife asked me how my day at work was, a normal question. How do i tell her about my day as a S.W.A.T. sniper? I don't think she should have to hear the horror stories i live out somedays. It is rare that i am used, maybe once a year do i actually need to pull the trigger, but how can i tell her about it?
2007-02-13 02:15:14 · 12 answers · asked by Drew 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm divorced, was in numerous situations like this in various conflicts when on active duty over 34 years. I just told them the details. It helped to get it out of my system. Which in the long run will help you as well.
You don't want to hold this in, because if you do over time it will effect your state of mind. So just talk about it.
I've lost track of how many i've had to do in my years of service, my service records list triple digits but right off hand i don't recall the exact number. Don't even want to know, wish i could forget them all. They were the enemy but still were human beings fighting for a cause.
I had to seek counseling for PTSD after 34 years of that kinda crap, i've accepted what i did and talk about it as often as is possible. That way i don't have to hold those thoughts in my head and can share them with other veterans and non-veterans and thus my mind and conscience is clear of any burdensome baggage.
2007-02-13 03:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She asked you how your day at work was, she didn't ask you "did you shoot someone today, was there lots of blood?". I don't think she is expecting you to give all of the details. She is just trying to let you know she cares. Let her know that your day went well, nothing serious happened. Or, let her know that your day was ok, had a ruff time with one of the situations but other than that everything was good. Or, tell her it was a pretty bad day. Had alot of trouble with things, and it got pretty bad. Then ask her how her day went. Let her know that you care, and that you are once again glad to be back at home with her. I think you are reading a little too much into the how was your day question. If for some reason she does decide she wants more details about something, just explain it to her. Or tell her that you would rather not talk about it in details as it is hard enough to go through it once, but to have to continuously talk about it is not something you want to do. I am sure she will accept that.
2007-02-13 02:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Women are really stronger than MOST men give us credit for. However, I know that many police officers and others have problems relating to others about this kind of work. IF you are comfortable talking to her, do it. You can tone it down if you think it is too much for either one of you to bear.
Does she read romance novels? If she does, they tend to go on this "HERO" theme quite a bit and make it more glamerous than it really is. If that is the case, a few boring stories might set her straight.
2007-02-13 02:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by siriusblackpearl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she wants to know, tell her in as graphic a manner as possible. Either of 2 things will happen. She will not ask again or she just might like hearing it. Hopefully she won't ask again. She is a grown woman and you should tell her.
2007-02-13 02:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her it was a normal day for you. No details. If she wants them tell her you would prefer to leave all that at work.
2007-02-13 02:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's right hold it all in. Next thing you know you'll be up on the roof with your riffle doing your imitation of Lee Harvey Oswald.
2007-02-13 06:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by Timothy M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just say that you are a sniper for SWAT and sometime you have to kill a person to save others
2007-02-13 02:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husbund is in inteligence in the Air Force and just tell her the same thing he tells me. "I cant tell you what i do, just know that when i come home to you my day really begins."
2007-02-13 03:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by brandywine840213 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell her..My husband is a police officer and he alway's tell's me what he has done on his tour.
2007-02-13 02:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her nothing. let the secret be with you only. wait for some more years and you can make a complete reporting to her.
2007-02-13 02:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by me, the curious! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋