2007-02-13 02:13:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am not saying that in your case it is wrong, but there are a lot of things to factor in. My boyfriend is 6 and a half years older than I am and at the beginning I didn't feel completely comfortable. I am 24 and he is 30. I have always been more mature than most people my age. He doesn't have any kids and we are into the same things. We bring out the best in each other. You have to take into consideration if you are doing this because of a lack of a father figure because if you are, you might be setting yourself up for heartbreak. As a young female adult to another the last thing I want is for you to get hurt. Yes I know that you can't learn from others mistakes but your own, but sometimes you can gain some insight from other peoples mistakes. You also have to think if it is genuine love from him because someone his age has already lived and can be (I am not saying he is) manipulative because they know what to say and when to say it. We are very vulnerable at this age. I have been hurt too many times by guys my age and by guys older (not that older though.) You also have to see what you are getting out of this relationship and where your future is headed if you stay with him. Is he controlling or possessive? Remember a relationship should bring the best out in people. You need to be friends before you can be lovers. If he has been married or have kids, do you really want to deal with that baggage? My advice to you would be to go to school or work and enjoy being 20 without this additional stress. Good luck!
2007-02-13 02:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Pati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong -probably not unless the 42 yr old is a control freak who wants to take advantage of the 20 year old. Personally if I was the 20 year old I would go and and have fun before settling down with a person this age. There is probably quite a bit of a maturity difference here. I have to question the motives of the 42 year old involved.
2007-02-13 10:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not wrong..but When that person is 62 and your 40.. what would you think.. or 52 and 30? Depending on who the 20 yr. old is.. He or she needs to grow and develop life skills while the 42 year old has already experienced these.. I'd recommend against it.
2007-02-13 10:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but will you feel the same when you are 50 and he is 72? Check out some of the 72 year olds around and if the answer is 'yes,' go for it!
2007-02-13 10:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by Bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! I my significant other is 11 years older than me and we are going on a year now. Our relationship is absolutely beautiful. After you reach a certain age, most age gaps that size make no intellectual difference! Love comes in all shapes, ages, and sizes! But true love is a beautiful thing.
2007-02-13 10:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by downinahole87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMMMMMMMMM, doubt its LOVE,,, more alike lusty fantasy, mind ya,,,,, sometimes a 20 yr old can be mature ,,,,, and it can turn into love,,,,,,,,,,,, depends on how much u got in common and how matched u are intellectually.
2007-02-13 10:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mari-Anne P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is wrong, I have never been one to express my feelings but recently i did and i believe that you cannot help who you love, you cant control how you feel and age is just a number.
2007-02-13 10:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by smurf200tn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, some people just need an older partner, so that both of them can be on the same level
nothing wrong with it
2007-02-13 10:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by livinia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind!
Age doesn't matter..
If u love him/her with all ur heart!
2007-02-13 10:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it is not your mom or any female related to you and not a guy.
2007-02-13 10:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋