If your woman cheats on you with another man or with another female do you let her come back to you. What if she tells you it was a mistake that she regrets? What if she says that she did it becasue you didnt pay her enough attention?
2007-02-13 01:58:46 · 28 answers · asked by citizenparticular 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear Kev,
Have you ever cheated on her? Was this her way of showing you how bad you hurt her? Do you have kids together? Mistake really? Was she sleep walking? Was she taking medication and not knowing what she was doing? Yes we all do things we regret however we all must take accountabltie for our actions with truth and I am sorry's and it is up to the person we harmed whether or not to accept the harmer back in our lives once again! Pay enough attention? That just sounds like she needs to read a book or get a job or really go back to school and get an education...No one needs THAT much attention to cheat on someone they are truly in love with...Kev you have alot to think about!
2007-02-13 02:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People make mistakes, no one is perfect - but that is a big mistake. I got back with my husband after he cheated and he promised he would never do it again. Well, I found out he cheated again when our second child was 4 weeks old. So I asked him to leave and I was a single mother to a 4 years old and 4 week old - it was rough for many years. That was just what happened to me - some people can get back together and never cheat again. It would bother me if the person said they cheated because you weren't paying her enough attention - sounds like she likes revenge - you will have to be careful. Good luck and remember trust is huge in a relationship!
2007-02-13 10:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kitt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, like my bf's x girlsfriend alwasy cheeted on him. She was never sorry and she lied like a sob about it. He should have let her go. At least that was once what I thought. See... now my bf is never intrested in sex and he can't get it up half the time and I rarely if ever get cuddled and I wonder if maybe that's why she cheeted. Although I haven't I don't know sometimes what would happen if things were just right for that. It is possible if she cheets she isn't getting what she needs, or she could just have an active lobido, or she could just be a ***** slut who doesn't give a damn. Unfortunatly, the reason a girl cheets vary's and it can be like looking at a 1000 page manual to figure out why each one has done it, you know? I think depending on the reason and what you know about the person should be the determining factor of you handle the situation.
2007-02-13 10:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by aboveparrequestrian 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i have had a few girlfriends cheat on me and i have only let 1 back into my life but that was becouse she told me about it and swore that it was over and has stayed fathful ever sence as far as the not paying enough attention to her ask her exactly how much attention does she want and look to see if maybe u rnt paying her enough attention. and if it seems like u r kick her cheating butt to the curb and say later blank!
2007-02-13 10:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by Deshawn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will use all kind of excuses when they cheat on another. The real question is, can you get past her "cheating". Is this always gonna linger in the back of your mind and cause friction in the relationship? If the trust is gone, there is really nothing to work on here. You have to make that decision.. But try using your head and not your heart on this one..
2007-02-13 10:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a female perspective, there is no excuse for her to cheat, even if she thinks she wasn't getting enough attention. If she felt bad about your relationship she should have talked to you about it or even left if it was beyond repair. I don't believe in making cheating "mistakes". If she loved you, she never could have slept with someone else.
2007-02-13 10:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give yourself some time to decide what's best for you. Maybe you really love her, and she really loves you, and it was a terrible mistake. Maybe you two can't bear being apart from each other, but then again maybe being apart from each other you start to notice other things that aren't quite "satisfactory" about the relationship. Everybody is going to have an opinion about "cheaters" but we all cheat at something in this game called life, and only you know if the best move is to keep her by your side.
2007-02-13 13:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by honeygirlc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
k if someone cheats on you, u should neva go back. one if they cheat on you it shows that they think your relationship is not important to them, it also shows they have little respect for you or your feelings. Also just imagine if pople you associate with (i.e. friends, family, coworkers) find out u took bak your ex afta she screwed another guy theyre gonna think your desperate and perfect doormat material. Also if she did it with another girl it just shows that she has problems that she needs to work out unless she admits b4 hand shes bi. if she regrets doing it y do it in the first place y didnt she just talk 2 you about her troubles. last but not least if she trys to put a guilt trip on you she is a emotional manipulating ***** who u are betta without. also ppl who cheat show that they have a crappy moral compass and little self control.
2007-02-13 10:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't ever get over the cheating, you will think about it all the time, it is called to trust.....She should have talked to you about how she was feeling, i am assuming she didn't but i don't think that is a reason for cheating, nothing is. If she was unhappy then she should divorce you and not have to go cheating, simple as that.
2007-02-13 10:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT..Once a cheat always a cheat.There is NO reason,.excuse or justifiaction for cheating.You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and this woman will not be faithful to you.Get rid of her now and move on..
2007-02-13 10:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋