2007-02-13 01:43:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Because bad memories are usually related to an un-resolved incident.
2007-02-13 01:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Michael S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very good question. Fortunate are the few who can say that it's the other way around. I personally think it's a matter of the H-E-A-R-T!!. When the heart is happy all is well; when it gets hurt - it hurts like hell!! and I believe we hold on to that hurt so as to protect us from further hurt (whether it works or not is another matter altogether) but I do believe that that is what it boils down to. the heart IS FRAGILE and we tell ourselves that if we remember the hurt that we can avoid it.
That's my 2 cents worth.
2007-02-13 11:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Slim Shady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You remember the pain so that you dont repeat the same behavior that lead to the pain or so that you can learn from it in some other way. That's life. Some good some bad. Hopefully the good out weighs the bad. Its all in what you make it. Cliche I know but true.
2007-02-13 09:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal experience, it is because when terrible things happen to us, our ability to survive kicks in and we kinda go on auto-pilot. This keeps us from "feeling" the real feelings of what has happened to us. I learned from PTSD counseling that once we are in a safer place (far from the trauma-in time usually), we can then revisit it and feel the feelings. Good memories are "felt" immediately.
Most people self-medicate by drugs, shopping, sex, etc to avoid this. The thing is once we go ahead and "feel" it...Cry our heart out, scream for days, rant & rave, we finally start to heal and then that "bad" memory will begin to diminish.
good luck & bless
2007-02-13 09:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Wood Smoke ~ Free2Bme! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to my Psychologist brother memories are all based on triggers, therefore presumably the mental triggers for happier memories are easier to lose than the bad ones, perhaps simply due to the nature of them.
2007-02-13 09:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be like that.
There are techniques to reverse it.
Look into NLP - Neuro Linguistic Programming.
A friend of mine does it and she sure helped me to diminish some unpleasant memories and bring nicer ones to the fore.
Alternatively, you might consider psychotherapy to clear the emotional content of these memories. But I rate NLP.
2007-02-13 11:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that is true. It would depend on the individual. I appreciate every good memory I have. I remember them. Maybe it is because you have too much, that you don't appreciate the good times.
2007-02-13 09:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the human body/mind/essence seeks the path of least resistance...in so doing, it seeks out comfort, pleasure and not pain...pain is a powerful motivator, a reason to immediately make change happen...
most good experiences only continue the state we already are in where we feel good...there is no demand to change or alter what we are doing.
bad experiences (pain) rob us of our present state of feeling good and require us to change, make adjustments and even loose something we like..in fact, pain is like a robber or a rapist that comes into life causing us to remember it if for no other reason than we would like to get revenge even with pain by making it yield more good and eliminate it....
2007-02-13 09:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by groundpole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad momories.seen to be be ingrain.more so than good memories.i think its because.bad memories are always hurt more because it usely about betrayal.and thats hard to for get.
2007-02-13 10:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by peter o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. Seems some of us haven't had enough happy times to over-ride the bad times yet.
2007-02-13 09:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by thepurestone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋