Im amazed and appalled by the divorce legal system. My step father has been absolutly screwed by his ex wife- she doesnt even work and he pays all the bills, mortage payment, child support. The court doesnt regulate how the child support money is used and she has since bought herself a new kitchen and inground pool! He still drives and old rusty car and works his @$$ off at TWO jobs! I just can't get over how the courts and so in favor of women.
My brother's wife (soon to be ex) has been living off of him the past two years while he works 2 jobs to support her and the baby. She stays for a free roof and to have her bills paid, plus she needs his health coverage! And when he does file divorce, she's gonna get the kid and he will be the one paying child support and spousal support while she just continues to mooch off of him!!
I can't beleive it!! Who else needs to vent! Share your stories
2007-02-13 01:32:34 · 7 answers · asked by Annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my step dads children are grown (26,24,22, and 20) so I was not meaning that staying home and raising children is not a job. They are all out of the house but he continues to pay the maximum child support for 3 of the 4 (I thought it ended at 18 but apparently not)
2007-02-13 01:41:23 · update #1
This is why Harry Taco will never get married. If anyone will do the "screwing", it is me.
2007-02-13 01:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Harry Taco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the legal system is bad. There are good lawyers and bad lawyers.
In the case of your uncle, if he agreed to pay college education for his grown children that was HIS choice. He could have perfectly declined this easily since those are the extras, but some men just don;t want to deal with it or really want their kids to go to college, so bet! Is not your money, why are you so upset? By teh way, I'm sure a kitchen and a pool and not unreasonable things to have, I'm sure that his children will eat at their kitchen and enjoy the pool too.
Now, in the case of a stay at home mom, buddy, let me tell yiou taht is a FULL time job and is not remunerated. So yes, if they are gettring a divorce she is entitles to ALIMONY until she can get back on her feet, normally a year. Imagine trying to raise two children on you own and try to get back in the work force after so many years of working UNPAID at home. You have NO idea how much work is to stay at home and raise the children, so please, spare your ignorant comments.
Secon, if the guy cheated he is going to get the short end of the stick in court. Why should they get any priviledges if they were the ones who strayed and wnated to leave home to begin with? So good for them to have to have 2 jobs to maintain the ex-wife and the children and their nagging mistresses...yeah, the grass is NOT greaner on the other side, so pay up!
2007-02-13 02:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what it is just not guys that great the short end . I have never recieved a dime in child support . My sons are now 23 and 25 and we never recieved a dime ! I had to sell my house and my harley (which was mine b4 i got married),and several other items just to pay for the divorce . We ,my sons and I were dirt floor poor after all of that . Then to beat all we had to live in a run down drug infested neighborhood because that was all I could afford at the time since we were not getting anything . I mean anything tried to get some assistance that was a joke . They said I made too much to receive public assistance . 2.00 too much . I am sick of how men always say that they get screwed that is so not true in every case . good luck .
2007-02-13 02:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off staying at home taking care of a house baby and husband IS a JOB. Second your stepdad can ask the court to regulate the childsupport, meaning the ex will have to produce reciepts for monies spent and if anything is spent on her personally the court and cut the child support.
2007-02-13 01:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last year my ex-husband married some nut crack slut and she would mail me 12 page letters pictures of them in the bed together you wouldnt beleive the crap i went through,so when my daughter would call her dad she wanted to have all say so over visatation she even tried to pick my daughter up from school,she took papers out on me fot attempting to haress or embaress over the telephone and i was arrested twice the legal system in my area did nothing to protect me and her county was issuing warrents before i could hang up the phone so yes the legal system can be a big fat joke for women as well best of luck to your family
2007-02-13 01:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by cherrytmccoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother has custody of his daughter, and has for the past 10 years. He gets no child support from his ex, and every time they go to court about it, she gets a "talking to" from the judge and that's it! Like this: "Now, you know you have to pay your child support, don't you?" "Yes, I know." "Well, try to start paying it, ok?" "Ok." And that is it. That's all the punishment she gets. Of course, on the other side of that coin, my daughter's father hasn't paid child support in 8 years, and nothing happens to him, either.
2007-02-13 01:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think we all have horror stories to tell. while i lived in my car (jan-april), my ex wife went to hawaii for two weeks, the next year, she went to new orleans on vacation for mardis gras. did my kids benefit from my "child support?" no, she did. the facts are that both of my kids have troublesome lives which can be directly attributed to my ex-wife's incredibly poor decisions. don't get me started. god bless you sir.
2007-02-13 01:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋