can and should people of different religions be together?

Question

I don't have a religion and i like a classmate who's a staunch Protestant who told me she rather stay unmarried than marry a non-christian. no she isn't aware of my feelings for her. depressing.

Answer 1

This was asked a little while ago - a couple was planning on being together and one was non-Christian.

My husband is a devout Christian, I am not. We do just fine. He would like me to become Christian - it's not that he's complaciant.

A lot of Christians that I have met have very strong opinions about an interfaith marriage. In fact, some fear that the non-Christian spouse will drag the other down into 'spiritual darkness'. I was told all sort of horrible things that I would do to my spouse and his ministry and that it was wrong for us to be married! I was also told I was stealing a good Christian man from deserving Christian women praying for a strong leader.

We are happier now then we have ever been without each other - we love each other more with each passing day. He says he does not feel unequally yolked being with me.

Quite honestly, she's probably just parroting what she's been taught. Christians are told that they shouldn't mix darkness and light. That they shouldn't really mix with non-believers. I have even met some, when I was a Christian, who feared talking to non-Christians because they thought their faith would be jepordaized.

In the end it is going to be her desicion - whether or not to be with an unbeliever. You can be her friend, talk to her, and like her - but she may not ever consider being with a non-christian. And there's nothing you can do about that. Just be yourself and let things happen as they will. If she's not interested in pursuing a relationship, let her go and find someone that is.

Answer 2

Not a good idea at all!! You have to remember that along with her being a staunch Protestant comes a belief system that if you both don't agree with can cause a lot of problems. I'm sure she believes it's wrong to drink, smoke, have sex outside of marriage - these are just 3 examples, there are many more. Also, I'm sure that attending church is very important to her - not just Sunday morning obligation but also Bible studies, etc. Relationships are hard enough when the 2 are on the same page - forget about it if you have this big of a division. Whatever you do - don't "fake" a conversion just to be with her - that would be terrible.

Answer 3

I'm in the same boat you are. I'm an atheist who is in love with a christian. The difference is the woman I love loves me just as much as I love her. At first she didn't feel like a relationship would work between us because of the religious differences, but she has come to realize that she loves me enough to work thru the issues we have between us.

So to answer your question. I do believe that such a relationship can work as long as both partners aren't judgemental of each other's beliefs and agree to work out whatever issues make the relationship complicated and come to agreements. Communication is a HUGE factor as well as love and commitment to each other. Without those things it won't work.

The first thing you need to do is to tell her how you feel and find out how she feels. If she doesn't feel the same way then you should probably move on. If she does reciprocate your feelings then you need to talk things out and figure out how you'll manage the relationship despite your differences.

Answer 4

Well, of course they can. I don't see why not. In fact, that's how the Swahili culture in Africa started. Arab and Muslim traders went to Africa and married African women who had their own religion. Now, about this girl... Are you willing to take on Christianity? I feel that may be a good way to get to her. Show her that you are able to adapt to her liking. But perhaps... Maybe... If you want to have no religion, and she doesn't like you at all, maybe you should just find someone else. ... Oh, however... If you sweet talk her, she could come to you. You know! Suck up a little bit. Butter her up.

I don't know, but I'd honestly try being a Christian. It isn't really so bad at all. You should try to join a church of Christ. I don't know, but God bless you in all of this.

Answer 5

I can understand why she feels and believes this way. I feel and believe the exact same way too. The Bible tells us not to be unequally yolked with non believers. That means that we are not to marry or even date non Christians. Why dont you try going to church with her sometime and see how you like it there? My husband did not know Jesus when i first met him BUT we went to church on our first date and he was saved and became a Christian in like 3 weeks. He was God's will for my life and we married and are going on 8 years of marriage. If however he had not gotten saved i NEVER would have married him and he knows it. He understands why too and is not mad or upset with me about it in any way.
If you do not believe the same basic beliefs in religion then guess what. That will cause alot of problems in a marriage and will even confuse your future children.

Answer 6

they can, And should if they both care enough for each other to look past the difference. But in most cases such a difference can cause BIG problems, i mean in most cases re;ligion is what people live by and it is hard to live with someone who lives by completely different set of rules.
sorry to hear bout yoiur dilemma, maybe you could look into her religion... maybe god will touch your soul and you'll convert and you can be together- just don't become someone you're not comfortable being.

Answer 7

Well...if you marry someone that doesn't hold the same religious beliefs...it causes a home to be divided...you just have a stronger and healthier relationship when you both are on the same page... She wants her life to be as full and rich as possible...she wants a man that can be a spiritual head in her home...to be able to spiritually lead her and her children...sorry I am with her on this.

Answer 8

a couple of whom are from this different faith backgrounds, have a lot of work to do, because they are not on the same belief system. Conflicts arise and other consequences, to ensure some kind of understanding between parties, open communication is a must. it is up to what the couple wants, to agree on having a relationship, with two different faith beliefs.
personally, it is better to be one of the same belief system.

Answer 9

I can't speak for other religions, but Christianity has in Paul's teaching that believers should not marry unbelievers. I have, however known of "mixed" marriages that are happy and have worked out (Judaism/Christianity) and (Buddhism/Christianity).

Answer 10

well the question is, what is your religion? you said you don't have one, does that mean you are atheist or you just are not religious. There is no way an atheist and a christian could be together, it just doesn't work. But, a christian and someone who just hasn't really had religion, could work. there are no opposing views on religion.