Any women out there married many years and husband spends to much time with job and caring about other people and can't or won't function like he should sexually? I'm 17 yrs. married. We have 2 teenage boys. I'm 47 but feel like 30, hubby 58, he's able but, he just feels he should slow down. He's healthy too. It's his whole attitude that sucks. Then of course when attitude sucks so does the physical part.
2007-02-13 01:03:16 · 9 answers · asked by art_girlt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a point Mr.JW. The only time I've said no was when I was really,really sick I've satisfied him when I've had colds. He would wake me up at 2 or 3 am because he was in the mood. Even when kids were little. It was usually when he was in the mood and didn't matter if I were in the mood. Now I interupt even his sports for it and of course he can't say no. I waited for one man and I feel that was a dumb thing to do. I have only known my husband. Again point well taken.
2007-02-13 01:53:06 · update #1
I feel you are sexually more needy. Use some device to satisfy your unfulfilled desires. If your hubby is faithfull to you, please dont hurt his feelings like my wife did and ruined our marriage.
2007-02-13 01:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would think that your husband does need to pay more attention and be more attentive in the physical department with you.
But then maybe you should also think of how his time and work and so forth is also a way of showing you love. At times, we dont work long hours because we like it, it is more so that we have a responsibility because we have those who depend upon us. Women always seem to think we should have this view when she takes care of the kids and shows us less attention because of time with them. Why is it not the same when we work because we care?
You know, in my view, you are simply another who is not looking at the good and loving things and you are feeling like you are missing something. Are you women ever happy or satisfied with anything that a man does, at the time he does it? It would not seem so from my view.
Let me ask you something? You want intimacy with him right? Just how much in the past years did you say no often or tell him you were not in the mood, felt tired, etc? Could it be that you are now finally getting the results of how you trained him to act? It is possible that you didnt pay much attention to him, which caused him to have to seek other outlets for his time and attention. Not accusing, simply asking.
I have always found it funny that women scream they want a good man. But then have you ever seen a man that a woman actually thought was good for a term longer then a week?
2007-02-13 09:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might consider more communication with your husband. Not in a negative way, no threats, or I'm unhappy with you, etc.
People repond so much better to positive statements. So, perhaps you can ask him, in a fun, light way, if he would like this or that sex act tonight. Or, maybe you can read a good book on sexuality and have each other underline your favorite passages, for the other, very intimate. Keep it secure, and, work at it...
Good Luck!
2007-02-13 09:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that his job consists of taking care of other people? If he is in the health profession, what I mean is that if he working in the Human Services field, (Mental health, counseling, etc) then he could be burned out. These types of jobs take a lot out of a person. He could also be depressed.
2007-02-13 09:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I would sit down and talk to him, maybe you are both in a rut? Also you should well know that men don't function the same as they age. try getting away for a vaction together even if it's just a weekend and see if that helps.
2007-02-13 09:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a real frustrated beyoch who just needs a good seeing to. Seriously, he sounds depressed and overwhelmed. Your attitude must be making the situation even worse. Back off.
2007-02-13 09:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by Cracker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to ask him what's the problem? He is the only one who can answer that. Tell him with out making him feel bad. Sounds like he needs his ego boosted.
2007-02-13 09:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of wife are you ? loving, caring, does he feel your love when he comes home. lf you have done all this, then its hes problem. Move on and take your sons with you
2007-02-13 09:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by sampls123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see a marriage counsler. my parents did and it helped alot
2007-02-13 09:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Callie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋