I met him at work a year ago, he is good looking , real man and most importantly we both have the same vision regarding many things like religion and so .. the problem is that he is paid 1/2 of what I am paid , my position is more senior than his...
Based on your experience , do you think this should be a problem after marriage ? How do you think other people at work will perceive that, should I even care for them??
All opinions are welcome , I really need an honest advice.
Thank you very much
2007-02-13 00:50:09 · 13 answers · asked by shdtt 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love him yes, but it is not all , I also want to settle down and I am evaluating all factors together before I take a decision.
I as many of you know that LOVE by its own doesn't always make a succesfull marriage ..
2007-02-13 01:18:56 · update #1
My advice is to not get married yet. You sound unsure about what you want to do. If you truly love him and he is working, it shouldn't matter if you make more money. The people at work, are just that - the people at work. They have nothing to do with your marriage. I wish the best of luck to you.
2007-02-13 01:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That should only be a problem if one or both of you has a problem with it. If you don't think he's being ambitious enough than that's a problem... Or, if he is old-fashioned and thinks the man should be the major breadwinner then that's a problem too if he's threatened by your success. But if neither of you has a problem with it now then I doubt you'll have a problem with it in the future either. All that really matters in a relationship is if you love each other enough and are committed enough to work together to make the relationship a successful and happy one. The woman I love has radically different religous views than I do but because we love each other and are committed to each other we both believe that we can make the relationship work. We've been in love with each other for 13 years.
2007-02-13 09:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by RaisedByWolves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry as long as you love him and he loves you back. Me and my wife are of the same you have mentioned abouve and we are married for the past 3 years. No issues so far. As it is leave the authority of handling the cash to him every month so that he doesnt feel that he is less paid when compared to you. Love is between souls and not in money and other stuff. Enjoy! All the best.,
2007-02-13 08:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by Irismar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my country, The guy takes more responsibility in affording good life for his family .. so he should be paid more
actually I never think of a girl in a higher position or has a bigger salary .. because it would hurt my fealings if my woman takes my responsibilities
I don't know where r u from, but I advice u not to marry him
2007-02-13 09:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ceaser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are basing your relationship on the amount of money that he makes and his rank at his job then your relationship will not last.It does'nt sound to me like you have a clue as to what marriage is all about.When you love somebody you love them for who they are not what they can give you and if you truely love somebody you should not care what anyone else think's you are in control of your own happiness or sorrow.Good Luck to you.
2007-02-13 09:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are basing a relationship on money and position, then YOU aren't worth HIS time. Sorry. Love is based on mutual respect. If you aren't mature enough yet to know that, then stay single and save him the heart-ache later.
2007-02-13 08:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be using you. Have you ever though of it? You pay all the bills, you are senior at job so you make sure that he has work .. He is real man .. you mean he is good at work & has a good body & manners .. fake I say .. He says few good things to you and you take it at face value ..
Just Date/ livein with this guy for few years and see his true colors .. after this you decide ..
It is too soon to get married ..
Also think when you have the baby .. he can't afford to pay all the bills .. your car .. house etc ..
Get a real real man .. not this looser
2007-02-13 08:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sugar,,, if you are having to ask this question in Yahoo Answers, HERE'S YOUR SIGN, that you are no where close to being emotionally mature enough for marriage to work.
Call off the thought for now, when marrying is right for you, you will know it and not need to ask someone else's opinion.
2007-02-13 08:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by yeller 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You go girl! Better to be a successful independent financial woman than a woman who can't make it on her own and would have to worry about how to support yourself if the relationship fails.
2007-02-13 08:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by Java Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why should you worry about what other people might think.....go with your heart and what you feel. if you love him then marry him. if he doesn't have a problem with the money deal then you shouldn't either...remember money should never have anything to do with being happy or in love....Money can't buy happiness! Love buys happiness!
2007-02-13 09:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kickin' Back 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋