I'm nervous to leave her because I've never really been away from her other than an occassional night out. My husband is insisting we take this trip and says our baby will be fine (she is staying with my parents). But, my dad has some health problems and I worry that this is too much to ask of them even though my mom really wants her that week we are gone. I'm just scared something will happen to the baby and I'll be out of the country and unable to return quickly. Or, something will happen to my dad and my mom will have to handle a toddler and my sick father. I'm very stressed out and would rather cancel the trip altogether (it's in 2 months) but my husband says I'm worrying way too much and the chances of something happening to the baby or my dad in the 6 days we're away is slim. His opinion is anything could happen any time so why would it be that specific week. He won this trip through work and feels he worked hard and deserves it. Am I overreacting by not wanting to go?
2007-02-13 00:45:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are over stressing yourself. Your baby is 2 years old, and this is normal behaviour. BUT!! YOU need time away with hubby, and he obviously needs your full attention, which he isn't getting with baby around. Go on your vacation, if your mom says she wants your child that week and your dad is also all for it, then go and enjoy your husband. Because the older your kid gets, then least likely you'll ever have this opportunity again.
2007-02-13 00:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are worrying way to much over this. You and your husband need some alone time. I bet since your child has been born the two of you haven't spent any good quality time together. Girl your child is in good hands so just go and have a good time. If you want call your mom nightly and check in to make sure everything is going good. If something happens then you and your husband could always come home from the trip. If you don't go you will regret it. Make your husband feel that he is important too by going on this trip. If you don't go he will just feel like he is nothing and all you care about is the child and not his need for you as a wife. Go have fun. Send a post card....LOL
2007-02-13 00:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey..I understand how you feel you have "MOMMY SYNDROME"LOL.The way your are feeling is very normal because you love your daughter and that is wonderful.Your husband is right to a certain degree anything can happen at anytime.If your parents are willing to take care of your daughter while you go on this trip I suggest that you take them up on it and go.You can call and check on them and maybe you have some friend's in the area that could help out if something did go wrong which I don't think will be the case.I think you can go on your trip and come back to everything being fine.Go with your husband and have a great time everything will be fine.I have been in your situation several times and I always gave in and went on the trip and I alway's came back to everything being fine.Good Luck and Best Wishes.Also keep in mind your parents raised you and you are fine your parents certainly are not going to let anything happen to their grandaughter.
2007-02-13 01:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings but I think you are overreacting. It is upsetting to leave your child for the 1st time but she will be w your parents. They raised you didnt they? I am sure if something comes up with your father your mother will be able to handle it. She is a grown women who I am guessing knows how to work a phone and call a friend or family for backup. I think you should discuss your fears w your mom and ask if what she would do if something happened to your dad. Ask her who she would call to assit her and make sure its someone you know or who you would be comfortable w. Go over the what ifs w her - I warn you she may think you are crazy and question why all of the sudden you think she is incapable- but for your own peace of mind have a sit down w her - settle your fears and enjoy your adult time w your husband. Also they have phones in Mexico and you can call and check - yes your husband and mom may tease but you need to feel OK too!
2007-02-13 00:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all..relax!! I was the same way with our first child. We lived in Arizona, and my family was on the East Coast! I wouldn't even take him out in public until he was 4 months old because I was afraid he would get sick!!
We now have three boys. Now, we feel comfortable sticking the dog in a kennel and going to Vegas for 5 days while my sister-in-law keeps an eye on the boys. (They are all under 12 yrs old). You father is ill, and you can take precautions like hiring a nurse to come in to help your mom while you are away. There are agencies who provide health care in the home. Look into it by contacting your parents health insurance company, or the Dept of Aging in your area. Enjoy you vacation with your husband your baby will be fine.
2007-02-13 00:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just left my 1 month old daughter with my MIL OVERNIGHT, and I was ready to come home after being gone five minutes!! I know what you're going through.
You say you've been with the baby 24/7 for 2 years. Honey, you deserve this vacation as much as your husband does!! Go to Mexico, have fun, and remember what it was like when you and your husband first got together, and had no baby.
Just don't drink the water!!
2007-02-13 00:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can leave her to good hands, like your mom or a trusted nanny, i think you should go and have a nice time... unless its too long... i wouldnt mind for a week... And you'll be other hand of the phone anyway.. leave the emergency numbers to the person who will look after the baby... Some marriages end coz the partners never spend time together like they used to do before. i think little nice trips like that keeps your marriage alive and you can remember the old romantic times that you've spent together. If you can leave your baby for a week to a trusted person then you shouldnt worry about anything...
2007-02-13 18:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by :( 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO! Speaking from expereince, your husband feels like he's lost his wife and needs some time with the woman he married. And if you take the advice of EVERYONE that answered this question, don't spend the entire time away stressing over the kid. She'll be fine.. Your father will be fine... Your mother will be fine.. and if you play your cards right and relax who knows ... there could be another little bundle of joy before the year is out.
2007-02-13 01:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lost in Merryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mexico sounds heavenly right about now, you lucky Girl!
I understand why you're worried. I left my one year old for 10 days to go on a business trip. Clearly she was too young for me to leave her, because she had a hard time sleeping and woke at every creak in the floor. For three months after I returned, she slept with me - my kids never shared a bed with me before that.
But at two years old, your daughter is old enough for you to explain to her that you are going away for a few days and she "gets" to say with her grandparents. Talk about all the fun things the three of them can do while you are gone and tell her you will bring her a gift.
So don your sunglasses, smear on that sunblock and have fun with the man who gave you that beautiful girl! Being a good mother includes taking care of your needs.
2007-02-13 01:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by it_queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural and hard to leave, but it sounds like you to need a vactaion together, your baby will be fine without you. I say got to Mexico and have a great time with your husband, and don't ruin the trip worring, your gonna have a great time. I have 3 kids I wish someone would watch them so I could go on vacation, you and your husband need alone time together.
2007-02-13 00:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by shorte716 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋