First of all, leaving my job is NOT an option. I am really well paid, work from home and have huge financial responsibilities that I carry on my own. My skills are also too specialized to be able to easily go to another local company.
Here's my story: six years ago, I got a crush on my boss. (I know, how old am I - 12?) A year later, we started an affair. We kept it a secret for three years because he was the boss.
Two years ago, he broke up with me. I'm still not over it - largely due to the fact that I still have to see him for work. He started dating a woman at the same level as him in the company, a few months after we broke up. They made it an open relationship, since neither was the superior of the other. I fekt so humiliated and "just not good enough".
Now they are talking about getting married and having kids. Ugh. My heart. My ego. Here's the kicker:
He still gives me things, calls me, responds to my advances, touches me...what's with THAT? How do I cope?
2007-02-13 00:28:50 · 6 answers · asked by it_queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Strange it may seem and even rude... in simple words.. ur boss might have loved u once but now he is simply haveing fun.. if he is touching u or is responds to ur advances its simply an indication that if u have self respect... dont let him either touch u or make advances...i had a bf...whose now married... he tried contacting me but i refused coz i knew what he wanted..and contacting the Ex is the easiest way out...
what u can do is... to go up to ur boss ..preferably when he is with his current gf... and congratulate them on the decision of getting married... this wud give him the hint..
moreover try consoling urself not to be jealous coz ... u wil also get married some day and anyways he is not in ur life now!
2007-02-13 00:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by niks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you've heard the saying, "Don't S**T where you eat". You need to just get over it. You've already made the mistake and flirting with him is not the answer. If he's with someone else then this is obviously where he wants to be. Hiding the relationship that he had with you means that he not only doesn't respect you, he doesn't care about how much of an asset you are to the company. You "specialized skill" isn't available anywhere else? It's time for a fresh start. Can you become a consultant with this skill? Aren't there any other companies in your area that could use your skill? You should start looking to move on emotionally, financially, and career wise.
2007-02-13 00:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you made leaving not an option, you have made a conscious decision to remain in that situation.
The only thing I can subscribe is to stop making advances at him, try to start seeing others OUTSIDE THE WORKPLACE, and concentrate on the things that are making you stay at that job. You said you make good money and have financial responsibilites. Concentrate on working with those things.
Chances are, if you continue with what you are doing with him, you may end up losing your job anyway. So it's really not worth it.
2007-02-13 00:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rugah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you work from home how do you see him all the time,is he hangin around your house,this sounds like you need to see a shrink.
2007-02-13 00:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by dcam47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your job and tell him to keep his hand to himself or you need to tell his woman
2007-02-13 00:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by mg5312000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋