2007-02-13 00:01:34 · 19 answers · asked by star91169 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
At a certain point in life, many of us find ourselves in the difficult situation of loving two people and feeling the need to choose one over the other. The situation can be torture, and anyone can feel torn apart. I don't mean to take anything away from your feelings, but your language hints at a solution. You sound as though you're standing back and judging these people. I suspect that if you let yourself get closer to each of them, the choice would be made for you. As a therapist, I listen closely to the words people use. When you use the word "picking," my ears prick up. The way I imagine a deep soul connection, love picks you and your partner. The "soul" part of soul mate is the depth of the connection. It goes beyond reason and control and seems to be ordained by fate. Maybe you need to take more time to be involved with these people and let a decision emerge. If you really are soul mates, you should be able to talk with enough honesty and depth to know what to do. If you yourself acted like a soul mate, you would describe the situation as two people together making a decision, not one sizing up the other. You have to ease up on your desire to know everything and to be in control-so you'll see the signs of real love. When you make the shift from being fully in charge to letting life happen, you'll discover how to be-and have-a soul mate.
2007-02-13 01:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had two girlfriends at the same time about 5 years ago. Honestly, I aged about 10 years in 2 months. I sympathize with your situation. It's too bad we can't date everyone. But, you gotta make a decision. 1 person can't handle 2 people.
2007-02-13 00:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-17 08:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been thewre and done that and I'm too dumb to avoid it but it keeps finding me. Good luck, hard decisions lie ahead. I usually burned the candle at both ends until I burned out. But it was fun getting there I must admit
2007-02-13 02:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by corleone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opposites do not attract. The law of physics says that opposites repel each other. If you look at long term relationships, the most successfully ones are those where the two people are similar in their interests and opinions.
2007-02-13 00:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think of what is that you realy want from a lover then check which one has it or does it the way you like. From there it will be easy for you to choose and let the other one go beforeit is too late. Choose one and avoid being a heartbreaker. Good luck!!
2007-02-13 00:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by MEMSA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're in for a whole world of hurt... Make a choice, stick with it, and never look back. Otherwise you may risk hurting someone you love.
2007-02-13 00:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try continuing a relationship with both of them, as long as both of them are okay with such an arrangement.
Or else pick one.
2007-02-13 02:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Salek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can write two totally different poems for them if you want.
2007-02-13 00:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
There are others who have made this relationship style work. Check out this website.
http://www.polyamory.org
2007-02-13 00:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by mathematician 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋