There is no love, no trust, and we havent been intimate for a while. I am starting to think about someone else, and my husband doesnt have a clue. He is someone who cant see past the end of his own nose...
2007-02-12 23:46:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to sound like a marriage counselor, but what you need to do is start over with your husband and not someone else. Your vows were til death do you part, not until it becomes inconvenient. You need to talk with your husband, and you two need to go out on fun dates together just as you did when you first got together. Other wise your vows were meaningless to him and to God. You need to really let him know how you feel, but as far as the other guy thing, you have no business with another guy, or even thinking about another man. Your man is your husband. You loved him once, find that love again. It can happen. You aren't the first to have to deal with this. Date and have romance. That is what keeps a marriage alive. Go out and have fun together. Do not be unfaithful to him, or God.
2007-02-12 23:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by celticwarrior7758 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Young lady, it is entirely possible to fall back in love again, that is if you wish to do so. It is also possible to regain that trust if you wish to do so.
Do you really need to be told that it is wrong to cheat? If you need to be told that or have it explained to you, I would have to say you are not much of a wife or a mother either.
You and your husband are probably both the typical type of today. You are far too worried with doing what you each like and want and what you can justify, rather then doing what is right, actually moral and so forth. Niether one of you is too concerned with what you commited to do and then doing it.
Lastly, dont ever use the kids as an excuse. Most adults who yell about what is good for the kids, are the same ones who will not care what is good for the kids when it prevents them from doing what they like or want.
2007-02-13 00:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many people conflict through a downturn round this time of marriage. you've heard of the movie "The Seven 3 hundred and sixty 5 days Itch"? With 3 youngsters, that is properly worth it to paintings it out including your husband... no longer only for you yet on your children. Their lives will be infinitely a lot less complicated and happier in case you 2 can come across a fashion to experience free mutually. yet... if he's not any longer keen to make some variations, and bypass to counseling, then it might properly be time to imagine about keeping apart. reality is, the drudgery of the degree of existence you're in will drag you down no count number no matter when you're with him or no longer. it receives more beneficial advantageous, besides the undeniable fact that, at the same time as those little kiddies are in about second grade.
2016-12-04 03:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a marriage of 32 years now and we are having a great time in our marriage.
Marriage is a meal best served with understanding and lots of communication between the parties.
You might make a list of the good and the bad points of your marriage before you make your final decision and by all means have a heart to heart with your husband now before you jump ship. Always remember the pasture is greener on the other side until you cross the hill and find out you just walked into a landfill.
Good Luck,
2007-02-12 23:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by semi273hemi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation for 10 VERY LONNNNNG years. Looking back on it, I endured it for nothing. The kids did not have a very happy childhood, it hurt me financially, and worst of all, I wasted 10 years of my life. I can get more money, kids deal with stuff, just like everyone else, but I can never replace those 10 years.
And...in the end, she couldn't understand why I was leaving...she was perfectly happy, and had everything she wanted...and it was my job to make sure that happened...how could I be unhappy?
I should have left a lot sooner.
2007-02-13 00:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are being very unfair to your family. How could your husband not know whats happening? If you are over it is in the best interest of your children that you end it. Over time the situation will only worsen and its not healthy for children to be raised this way. Do what you have to do kids are resilient and will be OK. Stay friends and treat each other with respect and you should have no problems raising healthy kids divorced. This is not the stone age.
2007-02-13 02:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is hard for all involved but the grass is not always greener on the other side, probably if you weeded yours, fertilized it more and water it a little more, it could be like the neighbours. Now, this is not to say you haven't tried your best, but every marriage has its own challenges and down times, loveless and struggling times, but only the strong can get thru it. you may someday have to go thru this with that person u have started to think about, will ur best option be to leave again? i am not suggesting u stay for your kids, STAY FOR YOURSELF, remember the first love (when there were no kids) and revive it, it takes a winner to go thru it FOR BETTER, FOR WORSE (cos there will always be "WORSE" times e.g now!)
2007-02-13 00:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by girlie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no man is mature enough for marriage.
so now you know the bitter truth about this bugger but have to put up with him for the sake of the children? well, without love, trust and sex you are about average with most marriages today.
the world is dying for the lack of love. and you are not alone.
this alone won't see you through the night but think of the children.
the best gift a parent can give a child is for the parents to love one another. but yours is gone so you have to fake it until they are out on their own or they will be crippled or damaged goods.
if your husband abuses you physically or mentally then get out of this situation as this is even worse case scenario..where there is life there is hope and maybe this guy will grow up and mature and see the error of his way..but if he is as thick as you say he is you have to be the strong one and do what you have to for the sake of the children. good luck..you have a lot of years ahead and it will help to pray and pray often..maybe you could find comfort in a church that you enjoy going to..if not find something you love and do it and someone to be a good role model to follow. and you have something to look forward to as you have a right to a good life too..God Bless You...never give up on HOPE
2007-02-12 23:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just asked a question similar to this about 10 minutes ago! I to don't think I love my fiance anymore, but I want my daughter to have a happy family (my parents go divorced and child hood was not good). There are so many thing hes done to me that I will never forgive him for, so do I keep going?? I know how you feel. If you want to talk, email me: treegodess@hotmail.com
2007-02-13 00:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by ErinRae 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the long run it may be better for your kids if you split with your husband than to have them raised in a home without love and where their parents are both miserable. If you're sure the love is gone and you've tried working on the marriage without success, then it's time to think about moving on for the ultimate good of all involved.
2007-02-12 23:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by Timmy!!! 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋