Six months ago I started graduate school in an executive business program. We work closely on the same teams for the entire program. I've started to have feelings for one of my teammates. He's very sweet and affectionate and genuinely the nicest person I've ever met. I've dropped some subtle hints that I really like him, but either he doesn't get it or isn't interested. Then last week I sent him a sentimental email the day before class. He was all smiles the next day, dressed extra nicely, and smelled heavenly. (He normally doesn't wear cologne.) He asked what was up with the email (grinning ear to ear like he had figured it out), and I had my opportunity but got scared and brushed it off. I'm getting mixed signals from him and don't want to push the issue when there's a strong possibility he's gay/bi. He doesn't have a girlfriend and steers clear discussing relationships. I don't want to lose him as a friend but don't understand the signals either.
2007-02-12 23:25:08 · 6 answers · asked by delaneyk93 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thank you for all your responses. I'm trying to get up the courage to tell him, and am waiting for the right time. Maybe tomorrow seeing as its Valentine's Day?? We'll see.
I sent him a gourmet gift basket to his office today to thank him for some personal favors he's done for me lately. He was very sweet and appreciative and commented that his staff wanted to know who [my name] was and he said 'don't worry about it..(jokingly)' and took off. Does his response indicate feelings for me one way or the other? I couldn't tell when we talked on the phone tonight. (By the way, I signed his card "Love," which I would with any close friends, but don't know how he may have interpreted it.)
2007-02-13 13:10:24 · update #1
If you seriously fancy him - ask him out. If he's gay or uninterested he'll let you know. If he's straight (or bi) why miss out on the opportunity to develop something special?
If you do ask, he'll be flattered - irrespective of his orientation (You seem to be a genuinely nice person, after all).
If he should refuse you, then at least you know where you stand and can then make an effort to be content with just being friends.
2007-02-12 23:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As for the signals - take an honest look at your own. They seem to be a bit mixed to me. If he is bi/gay that will come out only after you have some dialog. But only AFTER. If you don't tell him what you want him to know someone else will tell him what they want him to know. If you're gonna face tomorrow ... better do it soon!
2007-02-12 23:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you may be nervous but just tell him you like more than just a friend, and would like to know if he feel the same way. One thing is for sure you are going to have to find out, unless you know of a way to find out if he is gay or not.
2007-02-13 03:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by MintyLass* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't from now on efficient she is "the single" after 5 AND A 1/2 YEARS.... No. She isn't the single. If she were the single you'll not be asking strangers for advice. If she were the single you would gave married her and Wifed her years in the past. And if she become the single she wouldnt be having yo stress you into marrying her. No. Yiu do opt for to get married. you opt for to marry the single". you purely dont opt for to marry her. split inclusive of her and set her loose to locate the single and make area on your existence for the single to come back
2016-11-27 19:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him. State this [insert his name], I am gay and....well....I am developing feeling for you. I was wondering if these feelings were mutual."
2007-02-13 00:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by happybibottom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be is gay:)) but...you must to ty...or all life you`ll be sorryed about that!!TRY!!!
2007-02-12 23:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by Selenka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋