i have been going out with a 42yr for 7 months when im 20 and after a party one nite everything was fine then two days later i txt her saying i love her and i got a reply form her phone saying not to txt or ring her from her ex. all she can say to me is that she got back with him the after i satyed the night with her. her ex was with her for four yrs and he used to hit her continuosly. i love her so much i dnt want her to get hurt and a p[art of me doesnt believe it. she has also said that she neve loved me at all. now when i ask if we can be friends i get ignored and it has been like this for the last week. what can i do because i honestly love her with my whole heart.
2007-02-12 23:19:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she's really confused, and you might just want to move on
2007-02-12 23:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the old saying , If you love her let her go . If she loves you back , love will find its way back .. As for her getting hurt , She knew how her ex was and went back to him . Nothing you can do really . The more you try to help the more you will push her further from you .
2007-02-13 07:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by Dawn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well get over her. She a nut case and all you get from tring to be good to her is a broken heart. I don't know for sure but all women who stay or go back to someone that hits them must like to be hurt. So stay away from her don't call her don't try to see her and you well be better off. She a C.B.F.H.There a few out there and you got to be cairfull.
2007-02-13 07:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Dallas S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True, She was using you to get back at her ex. Why in heavens name wouls a 20yr old man date a 42 yr old woman and vicey vercy. He hurt her so she hurt him. As for you being in love with her I think it was more like lust not love. Find someone in your age group and learn what love really is.
2007-02-13 07:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by call2fly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly it is probably true. For some reason people in abusive relationships tend to feel more comfortable in them. Almost as if you don't abuse them, you really don't love them. You see them going from one bad relationship to another. Problem is usually poor self esteem, which can only be helped if they seek it. She probably cared for you, but without the abuse she was used to, and in some way sadly, expecting, she did not feel true love. The best you can do, is to be there if she ever turns to you for help.
2007-02-13 07:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's obviously trying to get rid of you like yesterdays news, accept the fact that she may be telling the truth, she might have just liked the idea of a young fling, wither that or she's under pressure from someone else to get rid of you and thus she would say she never loved you to drive you away, even if it were true or not.
2007-02-13 07:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it will be hard to do, but I would let this one go. She is probably very confused and needs space. Also this other man sounds very unstable and might just go looking for you. You don't need this.
2007-02-13 07:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes lieing ...she trying to hurt you..girls always do that
2007-02-13 07:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she used you ... you were nothing but a boytoy to her.... so now you gotta move on
2007-02-13 07:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋