I have some problems with my best friend. we've been "best" friends since last year and my problem is she only talks to me when she needs something or wants to tell something about her boy friend. And she's always hanging-out with her 'boy friends' (i mean male friends) during recess. what should I feel/act or think when we're together? should I tell her go away from me since she has many other friends?
But the twist is I'm the only person she's telling her secrets and problems.
2007-02-12 23:14:58 · 14 answers · asked by err ryt.. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In other words, you are "useful" to her. From what I see, your communication is all around her problems, her boyfriend, her secrets. How about you??? Do you ever talk to her about your problems? Does she pay attention to you? Does she offer you her opinion? Is she there, when you need her??
If no, then you are not "best fiends". She is just using you, she has someone to place her secrets and problems whereas she does't offer the same to you.
Friendship is interaction . Friendship means balance.
2007-02-12 23:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm she's ignoring u but yet she tells u all her secrets? Wht kind of a best friend is that??? If u want my honest opinion, it looks to me as if she's only going to u to tell u her secrets because you're her closest 'girl friend' and she cant exactly go tellin her 'boy friends' her secrets now can she. I think u should tell her to go away. A few months ago, i too began to slip when it came to my best friend because i was always with my boyfriend. Like i began to call her or hang out with her less but then i began to realise what a horrible thing i was doing and now we're closer than before and I am so happy i realised my mistake when i did. So yeah, i think u should find another best friend cuz this one's just using you. Good luck!!!
2007-02-12 23:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must feel that you are not a threat to her. She isn't a true friend, I hate to tell you because if she were she would ask how you are doing and she would include you when she hangs out with the guys. She sounds like a ho, user. I know so many of these. They put on a good act to seem normal but they are selfish and horny to the bone.
2007-02-12 23:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Penelope Yelsopee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, either you find a job or you have to somehow find a way to move back in with your family, because it's not looking good for you at all. Perhaps you should try to convince your friend to calm down--she should know how the economy is too. I mean, it's probably hard on her because even if you do the chores, she is the one paying for everything. Maybe you can ask her for ideas instead of trying to convince her to go easy on you? With explaining everything calmly and not trying to be argumentative, of course. She's already pissed as is. D:
2016-05-24 04:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a feeling for her? I didn't get it..depend on your feeling you should act..if you love her just sempuly tell her..girls sometimes become stupid in this situation..they need to hear the exact words (I Love You) otherwise.. just don't ruin your relationship with her and advise her not be with all these guys for blah blah reasons and i think she will listen to you as it seems that she trust you all that to tell you all her secrets...
good luck and tell us what will happen
2007-02-12 23:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! what kind of a best friend is that? only remembers you when she needs you! that sure is annoying! includes his boyfriend, well I'm not saying that you were not suppose to be friends with her, all i want you to do is to explore and search a lot friends who you can also hang out with, your not being limited to have and commit more friends. You can have a dozen of best friends. She can always be one of your best friends.
2007-02-12 23:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably the only person who will listen to her, and she is taking advantage of you.
I had a 'friend' for a while.....I spent hours listening to her problems all hours of the day and night.....and I was never once invited , for example, to her house. I don't know where she lives to this day. Her other 'friends' were....I wasn't good enough, except to listen when her other 'friends' wouldn't. I don't see her or speak to her now.
2007-02-12 23:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,she wants to be popular and she is very popular,thts obvious and if she tells you her secrets then you are her best friend,just tell her that you want from her to spend a little more with you!
2007-02-12 23:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Adviser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do u know that she is telling secrets only to you????did u try disussing them with any of her boy friends????considering that she is actually telling secrets only to you,hera ttitude just shows that she is taking u for granted considering that u r always there 4 her.so tell her that although u r always there 4 her u need her at times as well...................teach her to respect u as a person.set limits for her.
2007-02-12 23:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by gary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your tought of a best friend might be different than what she thinks. You need to still be her friend, and be willing to help her even though you dont consider her a best friend type.
2007-02-12 23:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋