isnt marraige just a peice of paper and one day of "look at me" time?
2007-02-12 23:06:39 · 32 answers · asked by lou 82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
pretty much. Atleast in my opinion. I got married when I was 19 years old because my husband was getting deployed to Afghanistan. We did it for the extra money he'd get, and for the benefits should he be killed while overseas. Had he not been getting deployed, we probably wouldn't have done it so quickly, or at all. (we're getting a divorce by the way)
Sure, it's a tax break and you'll get cheaper insurance for your car.....but that's about it. For some people, it's just a way to openly commit to their loved one. And that's cool. Whatever floats your boat, you know? But in black and white terms...there really is no point to it. If you love a person, you love a person no matter if you have a ring and a peice of paper. In fact, some people do better together NOT married than they do when they are married. I think sometimes just the word "married" puts added stress on a couple..I guess they are afraid they have to live up to some insane standard of life.
I say, do whatever works for you. If you want to spend a million dollars for an hour ceremony and some fancy pictures, then go for it. Or if you just wanna say screw it and not worry about it, that's up to you too. Either way, if it's going to work it's going to work,..if it's not, it's not. No legal document will change that.
2007-02-12 23:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany D 3 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Marriage, (or do you mean wedding)s is such a huge thing, and it is not just a piece of paper and a chance to play model for the day.
When you find someone that you love so completely, that you want to share everything with, the ups and downs, the good and bad times, its hard not to shout about it from the rooftops! Inviting all the people in your life who love you , and that you love (including a few relatives you're not so keen on) to share the happiness of the day and to witness the life-long commitment you are agreeing to with this person is such an amazing thing, and certainly shouldn't be played down!
The marriage is about companionship, support, trust and love, so much more, much more than a piece of paper!
2007-02-12 23:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by hell_ova_arse 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
This is a good question particularly with so many people getting divorced these days. It is really just to show the world that you are making a serious commitment to a person and you go into it thinking that it will last forever. It's also easier on the kids if you are married purely from a legal point of view when it comes to signing papers etc on behalf of the child. They probably also think that if Mum & Dad are married, they are more likely to stay toegether (although in reality this is probably not the case).
2007-02-12 23:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by FC 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Marriage is more than that. If it weren't, gay people wouldn't be fighting so hard for the right to marry. Fundies wouldn't be fighting so hard to "defend" marriage.
Marriage is a public statement of commitment to each other, to the intention of building a life together. It is an official step that makes it that much harder to dissolve the relationship in a fit of anger or pique, but instead something that takes time and thought to end. It is a sign of partnership and the establishment of a team.
As to the day of "look at me", most marriages in the US anyways are not big and fancy, but are done at the county courthouse. Not much look at me there. My husband and I were married in a minister's living room, just the minister, the two of us, and the two witnesses required by law.
2007-02-12 23:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
A person who doesn't want to get married is not 100% committed to the relation he's in..he wants the freedom doors remain open.
Married is the most romantic thing ever you could do or make with the person you really love. and soon as you find that person, I'm sure that you'll never think about other than marry him/her.
P.S: marriage is holly relationship and don't compare it with other sort of relations!
2007-02-13 00:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by confused 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
why indeed?
it is only for the women to give them security in case she has a baby..but it is not premarital sex if you don't intend to marry..think about hat sister?
most men are not mature enough when it come to getting married and with the divorce rate hitting fifty percent..and most kids are brought up with just one parent..the mom whats the point? you may gain a husband/wife but lose a friend! that's not worth the gamble unless you are sure in your heart that this is time to start settling down and raise a family...but if you are unsure skip the headache and just live your life they way you see fit...after all it is your life is not it?
2007-02-12 23:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Marriage at its basics is a license, a ring and a ceremony; however, the committment to the relationship takes place before and totally outside of any social conventions like vows.
A couple that loves each other and is committed to a life together as a "team" would survive with or without a marriage ceremony.
2007-02-12 23:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Marriage is a commitment between two people who are,"in love" and" know" they want to spend the rest of their life together. Yes, its' just a piece of paper..... but it makes the marriage legal and makes money for the state...you pay for that piece of paper.
2007-02-12 23:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by lee d 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i have just re married after being divorced for 20yrs and it feels real this time. yes we lived together for 6 yrs then he popped the question and all fell into place and its a lot easier saying my husband than common law. he also adopted my son so we are now a complete happy family.
2007-02-12 23:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by SOJLO 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, it is a life-time commitment that shows the people that are close to you, that you have found that one person that makes you truly happy.
Marriage is not something to go into lightly, it is the most important relationship and vow that you will ever get into!
2007-02-12 23:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by sweetybaby 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋