Yesterday, i was about to go and ask a guy out, but during that day, i met a group of friends and one of these guys in this group told me that his brother knew this person i was going to ask out and they revealed some outrageous bad things about him. I'm 16 and apparently he's 24-25. The first time i saw this guy, i imediately thought his name was John and the other day, i find out his name really is John and i have no idea if that's just a coincidence. However, after i left this group of friends, i hung around a little, because a part of me wasn't put off, a part of me was saying you don't know this guy and it's best to find out for yourself, so ask him out...I lost two nights of sleep over this in anticipation of asking him out which has never happened before and every single part of my intuition was telling me that everything was going to turn out great. And now, i have no idea what to do.
What do you all think? I'd appreciate any advice...thanks! :-)
2007-02-12 22:54:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I live in Scotland and a 25 year old going out with a 16 year old is completely legal over here...
2007-02-12 23:06:14 · update #1
Wonder whether you deliberately posted this question here in the Philosophy section.... anyway, having done so whether intentionally or not, you have to be parepared to hear philosophical answers as well.
I believe that in matters of relationship between the opposite sex, the beginning ought to be absolutely clean.... for whatever reasons, you are unfortunately not in a position to start on a clean slate since you are already in two minds. In my view, you should not expect much out of this one. If you are unable to give it up without a try, which is why you are in two minds, just get a safe date to start with... perhaps lunch!!
2007-02-12 23:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by small 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any 25 year old male that would go out with a 16 year old has some real problems and will only cause heartache.
Even if he is a really nice perfect guy, he should decline to go out with anyone 16 years old if he is normal and has morals.Plus he is taking a big chance with the law. Anything you accuse him of, he is going to be in a lot of trouble.
2007-02-13 07:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by Father Ted 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is 24 or 25 ?..and your 16...he is to old for you...don't ask him out....could end up jail time for him....
*** by the way, Dave is right..if you ask this guy out and he accepts..there is something wrong with him...no guy his age that has any sense would go out with a 16 year old........this is not meant to be an insult to you in anyway ......by law...this guy is to old for you.......
---*******------ ok, just checked your question again..Since it is not against any of Scotland's laws..than if you want to ask this guy out...go for it...In my mom's day it was legal here also.... my dad was 25 when he started dating my mom when she was 16......when she turned 18 they married...I can't say it was a fairy tale marriage... they were married 34 years -she died in a car wreck in the early 90's.....my mom was totally set against me dating or marry anyone that much older when I was in my teens and early twenties..dad seem to lord his age over her when they were first married...like she didn't know anything....and the pattern seem to set throughout their life....my aunt ,her sister, had a similar experience...he was 8 years old and married her when she was 17...they are going on 42 years of marriage....he played in a band and she set alone at home with the kids .......and she still sits at home and he goes his way.......
Dating is fine...just down the road don't end up falling in a pot hole ; )
2007-02-13 07:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋