a rape. Now she's older, married, with 2 children, and she is always thinking about what she did when she was younger. Says she's upset and cries, saying it's her fault because she feels she killed her oldest child, when there was a lot of circumstances at that time that led up to what she did. Lately it's been on her pretty heavy, getting close to the month it all took place all those years ago. She said last night that her child would have been 14 and cried. I feel bad for her.....real bad...any suggestions for either of us?
2007-02-12 22:38:55 · 11 answers · asked by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Best thing to do is to go for counseling I don´t think she dealt with everything that happened and that is a mistake so many make and at a later stage is comes back to haunt you.
I would have done the same if I were in her shoes, that is the only time I would say abortion is right.
2007-02-12 22:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ladybird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is a serious thing, I was raped as well so I know what she must have gone through. It has been years for me too but luckily I did not get pregnant. I still feel bare the scars and will never forget. I took some counseling but it wasn't enough. She needs to go to therapy, she has this abortion looming over her and I don't blame her for what she did, I would have done the same. No one can say that what she did back then is wrong until they go through it themselves. People need to put aside judgments and personal feelings about abortion issues because this is a delicate matter. Your friend was raped, that alone is a traumatic experience, she needs a lot of support and she needs to seek help to get all that guilt away from her. Let her know she is not alone and that there are people out here that support and understand her. Good luck!
2007-02-13 00:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by earthstarlatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something that happened 14 years ago is still plaguing your friends mind and everyday life then I would suggest counseling. She needs to talk about how she feels and get some of the painfully memories off her chest. I've never been in a situation like that before so I can't say I understand how she feels. I do know enough that if things are still bothering her and its hard to let go then see someone that may be able to help her find peace with what has happened. Good luck to your friend.
2007-02-12 22:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by CeeCee19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for her, i had an abortion due to a similar circumstance when i was 17, but i have no regret. As i know that if i didnt go through with it i would not have my lovelly son i have today with my partner who i love. Things happen for a reason, life is about experiences and to learn from our mistakes. My mistake however was not taking the morning after pill, which i could have taken up to 3 days after conception.
2007-02-12 22:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by wonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly recommend the free, confidential, online post-abortion study available at http://www.healinghearts.org If your friend signs up for it, she will be paired with an email counselor, most likely a woman who has aborted a child herself. Many women have testified that this program finally brought them to a place of peace. Your friend can also check the website to see if a Healing Hearts study and support group is meeting in her area.
If anyone here is currently considering abortion, please visit http://Abort73.com
2007-02-13 03:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your friend has never dealt properly with the rape and feelings around the abortion, I feel counselling would help her to cope with the past it might be worth getting her to speak with her GP
2007-02-12 22:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by mumoffour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you contact a crisis pregnancy center. Often they will have post-abortion counseling services available, sometimes for free.
How about having a small memorial service for the baby? It might give her closure on the whole situation.
2007-02-12 23:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should go into counseling. She has a tough issue to deal with, and she's been carrying the guilt for a long time. Just be supportive of her and maybe encourage her to get professional help.
2007-02-12 22:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should take her to a good phyctric as there is lot inside her to be cleared for her to live a better life,she has to get over with what happen in the past and lingering on to the past will do no good
2007-02-12 22:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs counseling for the rape and the abortion.
2007-02-12 22:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋