we are really in love, hes 15 and works as a builder, he has the money to provide for the both of us. he bought me an expensive wedding ring. ive had many boyfriends, ive slept with 3 boys, i go out with my mates all the time, so i am not mising on anything, hes the one for me, and i want to spend the rest of my life with im, my parents dont know im plannin on telling them soon. what do you think ?
2007-02-12 22:18:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ive been married a long time, so in that spirit.... DONT DO IT! ..............ever.
2007-02-12 22:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you're an impulsive 13 year old who is trying to grow up to quickly! What are you doing? Having sex so young. Where is the parental guidance on this?
Ask your question again in 10 years....After you've finished High School and College!
At 13 you have your whole life ahead of you and so does the 15 year old. You say he works as a builder---I'm sure it's part-time due to the fact he is probably either a freshman or a sophmore in high school!
If your parents are authoritative----they will put their foot down and limit you're goings out!
I have a 15 year old daughter that wouldn't dream of doing the things you've mentioned. She isn't even allowed to date---and at this point isn't interested in dating let alone having sex.
You need to focus your energies into your school work and education!
2007-02-12 22:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HONEY... you are too young to even think about marriage. You will not be the same person at 23 that you are at 13. You are still a baby, and you should not be having sex at this early stage of you life. You need to wait to get married and more importantly wait to have children. If you love each other like you say you do, then what's wrong with waiting? I think wait it out 6 years I know it sounds like a long time but it really isn't. If things are still as great as they are now, then go ahead with the marriage. Even though I think it's still too young, but at least you'll know each other better.
2007-02-13 00:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you are going to regret, in future.
You might sexually "matured" as you have already slept with 3 boys, as you say. But, at 13 you are too young, mentally and psycologically and not ready to have children or family life and all the responsibilities which go with it. Marriage is totally different from sleeping around, no matter how responsibly or irrisponsibly.
At 15 he is young too, mentally and psycologically, and has no dpendable and permanent job.
Concentrate, more, on your future as you have a long way to go, both you and your bf.
All the best!
2007-02-12 22:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ebby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to slow down. You are 13 years old and have already slept with 3 boys? That's not very smart. The major problem here is that your parents don't know anything about you or what you are doing. You need to finish school long before you think about being a little wife.
2007-02-12 22:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by lady01love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not even my parents got married that young. My mom was 15 my dad was 18. Long time ago. It is weird because I don't think your mom will sign the paper to let you guys get married. Love has no age. But I don't know hon I think you should think about it. I don't regret getting married but its hard. When your married its like a permanent thing that you cant take back. Think it threw. Hope I helped. Good luck.
2016-05-24 04:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think your going to be in hot water. You see whether your folks think about it or not, it's up to the local District Attorney. This comes under the heading of child endangerment. It no longer concerns your parents. In this State you'd be put under a court order and under the courts rulings. He's still a juvenile so he wouldn't get prison time but, you'd be kept apart.
13 years old, I think there's no States left under 16 years that has a child consent to sex law. That means what he's doing legally is raping you if your having sex, if I was your parent I push it to the limit. Your far to young for any of this and I would suggest you be removed from your parents home, from your own words your far to promiscuous.
You asked for advise, you got it.
2007-02-12 23:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow! Look I don't want to diminish your feelings for your bf by telling you don't know what you are talking about, but sleeping with three people doesn't make you an expert of love, my dear. When I was 17 my bf asked me to marry him. I was sexually active. I told my parents everything. Boy did they freak out. But think about this, you are sexually active. That means pregnancy. Do you know how much that sucks? Morning sickness, poopey diapers. What about taxes, finding a place to live, paying rent. What about DRIVING? Do you know how to drive. Woah! Who would drive you to the hospital? Jobs aren't always easy to keep. You never know what can happen. How are you going to pay for your food, clothing, telephone in case you need to call 911? Do even know how much TAXES suck. I really hate that one. Plus, think about this, marraige isn't just about sex. When you are married he is going to want you to clean for him, cook for him and your children if you have them. You have to live with someones dirty habits of leaving the toilet seat up, making a mess of the toothpaste, going to bed with stinky feet, snoring, not putting things back where they belong. Have you thought about these things? When I was 17 I thought I could handle it, and I had a job and a drivers license. But I wanted to wait a year or two to get married because I felt that if we truly loved each other, it wouldn't matter. Besides, I needed to practice on how to live in the world on my own before I could live in with a man. Boy am I glad I wanted to wait. He broke up with me over it. It was the best thing he ever did for me! You know what I found out? There are so many other fish in the sea, baby!! You don't have to go sleeping around with everyone to have a meaningful relationship either. And because you are only 13 your hormones are still changing quite a lot. Next year your body may be attracted to someone different. Chemisty is powerful, I know, but marraige isn't about chemistry or sex. And there are so many things to learn about in life before you give your life to a husband. Just think about this. Why not just wait until your 17 or 18? If you still love him after 4 or 5 years, then talk to your parents. And please, use protection. Pregnancy hurts.
2007-02-12 23:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a clue honey
you are 13--by law you cant get married
you have no idea what love and marriage is at 13
you are young, naive, and inexperienced
just because he has a job doesnt mean he can support you two. there is still school to think of. you will end up pregnant within a year of marriage then you will have no life. i am sorry, but NO teenager can support a family
wake up and grow up girl
2007-02-13 03:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by buffywaldie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and do it.
This will provide marriage problems for Yahoo Answers for the next 15 years.
2007-02-12 23:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your insane. your only thirteen,theres a whole world out there. im not saying hes not the one for you but you should wait. you cant get married till a certain age anyway but until then you have to wait then if your still together by eighteen then wait one more year. if your still madly in love as they say then do it. just think long and hard about it first. dont get excited just because he popped the question.
2007-02-12 22:35:43 · answer #11 · answered by chelsieleej 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋