Should you find out the sex of your baby?

Question

What do you reckon? Should I ask at my scan or not? I don't mind which junior is but I can't decide if I want to know... What did other people decide?

I'm not bothered for the whole pink/blue thing - my baby is going to be a pastel free zone anyway... and that just seems so outdated and sexist anyway...

Answer 1

I'm a father of one and waiting for Numero Dos at the moment. I found out the sex of both my babies at the earliest possible scans.

I think the surprise is still the same. Just different timings. However, I only do this because I want to know. Not for the preparations.

First of all, as good as ultrasound scans are these days, it could still be wrong. Secondly, no need to know the sex for the initial preparations. Girls don't have to wear pink and boys don't have to wear blue. It's soooo outdated. Just prepare the essentials first in a unisex atmosphere. After the baby is born, then you can go for more specifics.

At least, that's what I did and am doing again. I pray for a healthy and beautiful baby for you. Congratulations and have a tiring yet highly rewarding life with your baby!

Answer 2

I was very tempted the day before my scan to find out. However, me and my husband had already decided we would keep it as a surprise, so I didn't find out.
And I am SO glad that I didn't. I am currently 29 weeks pregnant, and I love it that it's still going to be a surprise and that it's a massive element of mystery in my pregnancy.Everyday I wonder whether it's a little boy or girl inside of me, and I love not knowing. I won't know until that moment when I get to meet my baby and that will make that moment all the more special.

Of course, it's a personal choice! But whenever people ask if I know the sex, and I say no, people say 'it's nicer that way' etc so I think that it's nicer for everyone.

Answer 3

I'm going to. I like being prepared and knowing what to decorate my baby room :). However, it just depends on you. . If you like to decorate it with pink or blue, or are not very good at waiting for surprises, I would find out the sex. If you like surprises then I would go without the ultrasound. My hubby doesn't want to know so I am getting equal boy and girl clothes. That way I don't give up the sex. In the end it is what you want to do. And also, with me, as odd as this sounds, I will be surprised...just a little sooner than having the baby, and as several mentioned the ultrasound can't always tell the sex by the ultrasound.

15 weeks and 5 days pregnant

Answer 4

I think many other people decided so that they would know what kind of stuff to buy for the baby, whether it should be pink or blue. Do what you feel like, do you want to be surprised? If not, then i wouldn't ask for a scan to find out the sex.

Have a nice day!

Answer 5

I decided I wanted to know, to be prepared for my baby, and to get the nursery decorated and have plenty of colour- coordinated things for the baby (sorry if that sounds crappy). But I have decided not to tell people, my family are in Ireland and I"m in Texas, so its not like they can come over and see the blue nursery that I've decorated. Also to decide on names. I had a list of boy and girl names that I liked a lot, but I'm so impatient that I just asked!!
I don't regret it, and I dont think it has taken from the joy of having a baby, I feel that I am getting to know my son before he's been born. During pregnancy you get to know what foods/drinks/music baby likes by experimenting, but when I experiment, I can say 'Must remember Elliott doesn't like ......'.
It a personal choice, its up to you what you decide, just sharing my thoughts on the topic!!

Answer 6

i didnt bother asking on my first or second but on the third i did.. first time around so many people said 'oh my god you're going to have a boy,i can tell by your shape' so i bought blue then had a girl ,second the same sort of thing was said so i bought pink and had a boy...i was so fed up after spending all that money so i asked the 3rd time around.i have also asked this time but aparently they cant tell yet so i will ask again at my 20 week scan... it does help if you havent got the money to waste.. but everyone to their own, do what makes you feel happy.

Answer 7

I knew with my first baby, and chose not to know for my second. To be honest, I couldn't really say which was best, as even if you do know, you need to be aware that mistakes can be made so it's really not a good plan to buy all pink clothes, for example! I had names for boys and girls, just in case, and after giving birth, all I really cared about was if they were ok, the sex really came second. It's a personal thing though - all I wanted to say really was that it doesn't matter all that much - you'll love your baby whatever you get.

Answer 8

I've had 5. Didn't ask the first time & it was a boy. I was really happy just to have a healthy baby so didn't really care boy or girl. I've asked with the others & was told probably a girl but not sure for all of them & they were indeed girls but it's not great knowing only probably. My midwife's sister was told yes it was girl & then she had a boy. It took her a long time to come to terms with that as she had mentally been carrying one baby and it turned out to be another.

If you don't mind, it's probably best not to ask and it will make the birth and exciting surprise.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Hi, I found out with two of my babies, but didn't with the other two. For me, finding out helped me to think of my baby as a real little person before they were born. But, on the other hand, the moment when the other two ( who I didn't know the sex of ) were born and I found out what sex they were, was fantastic! It depends what is more important to you. If you're not sure whether you want to know or not, I would suggest that you don't find out and wait and see - but it's up to you!! All the best of luck with your baby.

Answer 10

I never knew, just took pot luck! Some people say they do it so that they can buy things in the right colours! But most babies start out in white so thats no reason. Its a wonderful feeling when you find out you've got a ?????girl or boy, and I had a friend who was told she was expecting a boy, turned out to be a girl, umbilical cord was interestingly placed!