Ok, here is the situation................I have a friend of mine who I used to speak 2 every day. A day did not go by when we did not talk. Ok, now out of the blue since just b4 xmas we have not seen or spoken much 2 each other. This is really out of character. I have asked her if I had one something or said something wrong and she says NO........she is getting married at some point this year (a date is yet 2 b set) and I was invited.....now out of the blue I'm not.............if I try 2 make plans 2 c her she makes up lame excuses. can anyone relate to this and can anyone give me any good reasons y some one would do this. We were really close my kids love her and its not fair that I cant say Y we havent seen her. I have run out of excuses 4 them 2. Its not fair. Can anyone give me some advice on wot I should do??
2007-02-12 21:28:50 · 12 answers · asked by bammbamm 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that someone might went to her and said that you said something bad about her or her fiance or even that you wanted her man...Or maybe she is jealous of your life...If I was you I would write her an e-mail and tell her how I feel...
2007-02-19 16:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess ur friend either used to think of u as a mate and a her marriage is fixed now, is trying to get out of it.another speculation that i can make is that probably (if u r indians) her in laws would not accept ur friendship.or might be that there is some problem between her and her to be where in he might have debarrred her from seeing you.all these are just peculations.ur question misses on ome important details.since how long are u ppl friends?is ur wife and her fiancee conftbl with ur friendship?most importantly did u talk bout this to another common fried or try visiting her place to see her uninformed?as the wedding date is not fixed r u sure that there is no problem from that perspective?might be that there is some problem with her weding being fixed.is hers an arranged or love marriage?
2007-02-12 21:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by gary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this is pretty familiar to me... my boyfriend asked at some point of our relation to stop seeing my best friend, which is a man. Well, that was pretty though for me because i was really in a cute intellectual relation with that boy... well i also understood my boyfriend... he got to know that boy and he didn't seemed to be trustfully for him...well he his also a bit jealous but for the sake of our relation, i gave up.
she might be in the same situation and because she is not so comfortable with the idea she is not so good in excuses yet
the solution: why don`t you just ask her? the truth will set you free... as someone once said
2007-02-20 01:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by sclipym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your male - although that's never been made clear - I suspect the man she's marrying is findling your attentions claustrophobic - back of completely she probably needs space - you don't want them getting divorced before they've got married do you because you're in the way - unless you are subconciously purposely being in the way - because you want her - but that's a whole other can of worms isn't it ?
2007-02-12 21:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by baitersspaced 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I can relate. My best friend since 2nd grade changed over our summer vacation after 5th grade. We were great but something happened to him during the summer. He just changed his personallity. So I just tried getting along with the new him. You should just call her up and talk to her and see what happened and tell her your feelings and how your kids feel.
2007-02-20 09:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by Soran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were such good friends why not just ask her whats going on that you want her to be honest with you and that you feel as if she is shutting you out of her life as you are confused on her reasoning . Why do poeple find it so hard to have an honest conversation these days.
2007-02-19 21:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she has alot going on with her other relationship. I am going through that right now myself. It isn't that I don't want to hang out with my friends, it is that I have so much going on now with my relationship. As long as she is happy, be happy for her and just find someone else to hang out with. I know it is sad, but I am speaking as if I were her.
2007-02-20 01:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is involved with a controlling man. Accept and move on. She has to choose her own mistakes. Let is be. In two years she will leave him and give you a call.
2007-02-20 13:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by jason m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's her husband to be, is jealous of you. And wants her all to himself. write her a letter, no return address, so she won't know who it is writing to her until she reads the letter, explain how you feel, and ask for a explanation of her behavior, maybe she'll answer.
2007-02-20 18:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Peppermint Patti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, is it just you she is not talking to?? maybe she is not talking to anyone. maybe she is going through stress with the marriage?? do you think you said anything bad??
2007-02-12 21:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by melelisi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋