Hello. Tonight and then about two nights ago, I had hard/rough sex with my boyfriend (it was more...intense than usual). Two nights ago, it was just a bit painful afterwards and then I figured I was okay for tonight, just use some more lubrication than usual. I was wrong, to say the least. I'm red, swollen, and unable to sit down properly. This is mostly my fault for not saying "Um...ow. Little slower, please."
So I need advice on how to treat it (it's not at the point where I need to see my OB, it's just uncomfortable/painful as all hell). Ice? Advil? And whatever works fastest would help, seeing as how we can't keep our hands off of each other.
I've only been having sex for about five months and this is the hardest/roughest we'd been. I don't plan on it being the last time it's like that, either. So it'd be nice to have some advice on how to deal with the post-coitus pain until I've built up some resistance down there.
Thanks in advance!
2007-02-12 21:24:43 · 9 answers · asked by Elaine 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Oh, and just to clarify things...he knows that I'm feeling the pain and is actually very sorry about it. I'm not the first partner he's had, but I'
2007-02-13 08:54:36 · update #1
*I'm (sorry, the enter key got pressed or something) one of the more sensitive. So he wants me to take the time to heal up.
I told him during this last time that it was beginning to hurt a bit, so he eased up on his...force. It felt immensely better and so we just went like that for awhile. It did get quite annoying when he kept asking if it hurt, but at least it means he cares. He did that when we first started having sex, too. He's at a normal/average size, so it's not like that's the problem, he just happens to have a lot of strength. It really actually just felt like we'd been having sex for an hour or more. Afterwards was a whole other story, but he gave me some of his boxers to wear so I wouldn't go home in the morning wearing a thong. And he asked me if I was ABSOLUTELY SURE I had some advil and an ice pack, which is pretty much the advice I've been given. I don't have a stopper for my tub, though. I just wanted to see if there was anything else I could do.
Thanks again!
2007-02-13 09:04:04 · update #2
I think a bit of reverse physical experience is needed here so that in future your b/f knows what it might be like for you.
May I suggest you buy some chillies ( hot as hell) put them in a blender The take a nice handful and grab is penis and scrotum and anus,roughly and plaster the stuff all over him. The fire will be similar to what you are experiencing. This is real spicy hot sex!
For you I suggest a visit to the pharmacy to get some Bonjella. This is a medication used for children that are teething. Squeeze a liberal amount from the tube and apply it to the inner labia and inside the vagina. the relief will be relatively instant.
2007-02-12 22:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I will tell you I love my rough sex and I will tell you the swelling and the redness, and sometimes even bleeding in normal. You have to think when you are going at it and harder and hard that you are making more friction. Have you ever hit your head hard enough that you got a bruise and a bump. Well think if something in "hitting" you over and over again with insertion then you are going to sore. That is why you hear of women being swollen. That means that had rough sex. Think about it. And your vagina just has to get use to that. Aslo nother thing is that you may want to lay off the rough sex for a little bit to get better. To fix the pain, take a aleve and take a warm but cold bath. Some salt will make the redness go away and the coolness of the bath will make the swelling go down. All so a ice pack down there wouldn't hurt you. Good luck!
2007-02-12 23:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the amount of sex partners doesn't have a bearing on how you feel about a long term partner or someone you have chosen for a relationship. How could it? Sex can be special because you're having sex with THAT person and you have chosen to spend your free time with THEM. Sex can also be something that fulfills a need and if both participants know that it is just to make the body feel better, then there isn't anything strange or wrong about that either. It is why the phrase "consenting adults" was created. It doesn't sound like you are a "hopeless romantic" but more inexperienced in life in general. Actually, after you've had sex with many different people and you've seen what is "out there", you tend to be quite discerning in what you want in bed and out of a relationship. The bigger question is should your girlfriend take a chance on someone who is judging her every moment of the day? Have you spoken to her and found out what she has to say about this? Her answer is all the answer you need. It isn't a general question. Your question is even worded in such a way that you will more than not get the answer you are "looking for". The easy answer is: "No, it doesn't change the specialness of it." This only applies to those who judge others and have an immature outlook when it comes to sex and relationships. Ask your girlfriend her take on it and then after you have your answer, do not seek any further because if you do, then you owe it to her to set her free and allow her to be with someone who has had more life experience or at least, maturity. Questioning her answer is to question what you mean to her and what she means to you.
2016-03-29 04:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some advil and take it easy. Remember it is not a race. You should really talk to your boyfriend and tell him that while hardcore porno sex can be really enjoyable sometime, your vagina was not ment to take it like that all the time. You really need to give your vagina time to rest after this kind of sex, at least a couple days. Good luck.
2007-02-12 21:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by Molly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I hope now you've figured it out....only freaks of nature have really hard/rough sex and actually enjoy it! He can't be worth impressing that much to simulate a freaky porno. You're young, you'll figure it out. Its kinda like hand on an open flame......it hurts, so don't do it!
2007-02-12 22:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by ali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so a bath with lavender or salt is good, ice can help aswell, painkillers are good if it persists for long period of time.....if this doesnt sound gross when weeing for the next few hours hop in the shower as the acid in urine can make it really hurt and wear no undies or if u have to make sure they are cotton and no tight fitting pants like jeans.....im sure most people have felt the pain u have.....just gradually increase the resistance in future and slowly get your body to tollerate the harder sex...it does take time.....when it does begin to hurt during intercourse stop.......take a break, have a drink and go back to foreplay and if it still hutrs then finish him off in another way or get him to finish himself until u are fully used to having intercourse.....everytime u push it too faar u will feel sore......good luck and i hop u have many more happy, not painful, bedroom romps ahead :)
2007-02-12 22:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by dan_dav82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agree with the above advice,and do not ever,ever not say anything..Now he thinks,well what can I try that rougher...You tell him.......Tell him,hey,i am really sore,and red and swollen.
He maybe very upset that he hurt you.....
2007-02-12 21:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a nice warm bath.....to sooth the tissues.....use some more lubricant and rest it.......go a little easy and take care you don't get an infection...take some advil
2007-02-12 21:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
bath is a good idea, take tylenol for the pain
2007-02-12 21:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by petrobomb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋