my friend has been dating a married man for the past few months. he says his wife and him have been having problems she moved out hey don't have sex etc. well my friend aks me if she should call his wife i stupidly said sure he says he wants her to move out permanently anyways. well the call was made to the wife's work she is a case worker in a social assistance office. conversation was exchanged turns out she has never moved out and she does have sex with her husband. seems like things were fine on her side at her home. well now the wife has taken the kids she has with her husband 6&7+ her kid B4 and left the husband with his two kids 15&12 and left the home. she doesnt want the husband to see them unless he goes to court i think i should have kept my mouth shut. she has told her husband she can replay those conversations? can she replay them to him ? am i to blame? those calls were just info given to her nothing obscene or violent. we talked with my friend on the phone listening in.
2007-02-12 20:51:57 · 10 answers · asked by sexylousleo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Interesting, but I wouldn’t beat your self up about it sounds like your friend probably only asked your opinion because she was sure she would get the answer you gave, I’m betting even if you said no she would have went to see Mrs X anyway.
As to did you help break up the marriage, of course you didn’t! Mr X did a pretty good job of that himself, after all a faithless marriage is no marriage at all. Now your friend will Probably feel the same way, and it’s important that you make her realise it is not her fault either.
2007-02-12 21:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by Criminal Critic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The calls are not the problem here...the lying piece of garbage husband is the problem. She can replay the calls until the cows come home, but that does not implicate you in anyway. If hubby had not had lied in the first place and be seeing another woman, not of this would have happened. The bastard got what he deserved. Tell your friend to stay away from married men from now on. It can only lead to heart ache and pain for many people, including her.
2007-02-13 05:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are really to be blamed for the break up. Sooner or later, the wife will eventually find out about the affair. Maybe, you could be "doing her a favour" instead by telling her. The persons to be blamed here is your friend and the husband. Your friend IS THE ONE who is a marriage breaker.....including the idiot husband.
2007-02-13 05:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no u didn't help to break up the marriage, this was caused by him and your friend. yes she can replay the call, and may use it in her divorce. finding out a husband is cheating can be one of the worst things we may ever have to face, it hurts us, destroys the marriage, think it was mean for your friend to call the woman and she shouldn't have done it. the wife had no idea ut now she does.unfortunately it was your friends intention for this to happen.
2007-02-13 10:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what happens when you get involved with a married man..better avoid them...think you should have staid out of it...but mainly it was his fault..he shouldn't have lied about his marriage and make any hopes for your friend.She should have been honest with her from the start.Don't worry if it wasn't your friend it would been somebody else,and his marriage would collapse anyway.I just hope that your friend is not seeing him anymore?Just forget about it and move on..is not worth it worry about him or his wife.He cheated that's why his wife is angry about the most.and anyway if you have downs in your realationships you don't go to look for sex somewhere else?!
2007-02-13 05:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by lanicolette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any idea how difficult it is to understand a text in which punctuation is more rare that water in Central Africa?! Gee, people shouldn't be allowed to touch a computer unless they prove that they CAN write.
To answer your question: forget about the whole story, what happened, happened. You cannot be blamed for anything. If your friend is smart enough, she will leave that s. of a b., too. In as far as replying to "those conversations" (which...conversations?!) is concerned, re-write your questions so we can understand what you are talking about.
2007-02-13 05:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by mrquestion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off your friend is to blame for screwing with a married man and the man is to blame for being a pig. You are to blame for even suggesting such a thing. Why would you want her to contact his wife in the first place?
2007-02-13 06:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she works in social assistance, then they ARE recorded as a matter of course... and she can get the tapes and replay them... YEP, you should have kept out... and not i think your friend is going to be called at the divorce!!! :D
2007-02-13 04:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she can replay the tapes.....you interfered in someone's life and caused much unhappiness...your friend should not have been involved with a married man and you should not have gotten involved...I hope you have both learned a lesson....him too....when will you people stop thinking it's ok just to hurt others....I just don't get it
2007-02-13 04:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should normally stay out of things like that...
however, it sounds like everyone has been done a favor in this case...
she was going to find out anyway...
glad he got what was coming to him...
2007-02-13 04:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by j_mang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋